Originally Posted by
smackie9
100 partners or more is extreme....we are talking average people in average relationships. This numbers thing is blown out of proportion here. If you demand numbers you are insecure, if you just ask about past relationships its just curiosity. For me it was just curiosity when I met my husband. When I was dating other guys before him I never inquired about numbers....
Yes 100 partners is on the extreme end which is why I picked that inflated number, although the guy that I mentioned earlier was around or over 100 partners. Anyway, "if you demand numbers you are insecure" is simply a label that you have come up with for people whose actions you don't like regarding this subject. Wanting to know is their prerogative, not insecurity. If you're buying a used car is it insecure to check how many miles are on it instead of trying not to think about it? No, its prudent. There is no need to berate anyone else whose views on sexuality aren't as loose as yours, and no thats not an insult even though it may sound like one. I actually enjoy hearing stories about your seeming sexual freeness (if it is indeed you that I am thinking of), but again, there is no need to belittle those who need to know how many sexual partners their significant other has had before committing fully.
...one can be sure of nothing until it has already happened...