I raised the issue of the lack of sex and ended up discovering that Christine really does not like sex, however she is not----I repeat, not----a lesbian
In short, Christine's intimate communication skills are extremely poor, and the problem is that I yearn for having a rich and emotionally connected conversation with my primary partner. For whatever reason, she is feels very uncomfortable discussing the "important stuff" with me.
and it seems that whatever few conversations I am able to have with Christine, she always brings up Dianne, almost as if that is where her energies and focus lie.
It's getting to the point where I sometimes feel that Christine now talks to me with the same conversational style that she uses with Dianne, almost as if she can't distinguish which person she is having the intimate relationship with. It is extremely bizarre
I just can't see how their friendship is a healthy one, with all of the constant contact and visitations, and it seems as if Dianne is projecting her desire for an intimate relationship onto Christine, and Christine is allowing herself to be drawn in because of her own issues. It seems extremely co-dependent.