We have been accused every now and then of being like a clique that is hard to break in to, but I think it is more a matter of newbies needing to "pay their dues". Sometimes newbies come in being pretty accusational when they haven't been around long enough to "know" the style of the regulars. Naturally, when accusations are being made, people get defensive. It takes a while to know people well enough to know when they are being sarcastic or when they are kidding, and when their irritation is justifiable.