Originally Posted by
IndiReloaded
I like a man who can be a man. Noone likes a wimp.
However, I also like a man who knows when to step aside & let me be the dominant one and can do it without feeling his balls have been removed. Particularly when I am the expert. Especially when, if he doesn't, he then actually stands of good chance of having them handed to him. Its a sign of intellect, IMO, not weakness. Efficient use of available resources. I don't have this problem in relationships, but have had it happen in business. But I think many women think this way in LTRs as well.
And this is what I meant when I said a good leader will know when to let others lead. A dominant man is not the one who simply takes control over everything and points his finger. He is the man who knows the best outcome for himself and those around him in every situation. If situation requires skills he doesn't have then he will submit that situation to the person who does have those skills. There's a lot more under description of dominance than just sheer conquering brutality. It's knowledge, understanding, problem solving, solution seeking, harmonizing, empathy, initiative, taking charge when neccessary, intuition into what's appropriate, leadesrhsip skills. Those are the sings of true dominance. This is what I understand under description of "alpha male"
Originally Posted by
IndiReloaded
Ultimately, you want a true partnership where each has understood areas of strength & weakness where one defers to the other b/c its agreed upon that one person is stronger in that area. But its not a 'master-servant' type relationship, its simply the same reason you don't visit your doctor to get your taxes done. Doesn't make you respect your accountant any less b/c they can't do surgery.
That's true. And I didn't mean it in the way that one is the master and the other is servant. But that one has a better capacity to lead and have initiative into which way to go than the other, while the other has better capacity to follow. It becomes a lot more complicated when two dominant partners try to fit through negotiation into one of these roles, because it's always a win / loose situation for one or the other, when in a good partnership it should always be win / win.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
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