Don't know if I'll change my mind on marriage.

[Junket]

my bf and i recently became domestic partners. that was a big step.

It came up again.

Why do girls always want to ruin a good thing?

[misombra]

are you guys getting into serious arguments over this or... how is she bringing this up and what happens..?

[Junket]

are you guys getting into serious arguments over this or... how is she bringing this up and what happens..?

We were discussing moving to another city.

She got on about how she was thinking she might want her own apartment separate from mine and all this weird stuff.

Then she brought up our "fundamental differences".

I just get quiet and depressed because I know what would make her happy, but it would be a lie to say I wanted the same things.

[Mish]

Why do girls always want to ruin a good thing?

I think she is testing your views of permanence and longevity of your relationship. I think she wants to know if you're in it for the long haul.

[misombra]

you two will have to come up with some sort of compromise to stay together. she will either have to accept that marriage may never happen or may not happen for a long time or she'll have to go. the ultimatums and threats and all that will send you into your shell and she will get nowhere.

if you don't want to get married then you shouldn't. it's a contract that's really difficult to get out of and lasts forever. does she bring this up after she talks to her family or something?

[Junket]

you two will have to come up with some sort of compromise to stay together. she will either have to accept that marriage may never happen or may not happen for a long time or she'll have to go. the ultimatums and threats and all that will send you into your shell and she will get nowhere.

if you don't want to get married then you shouldn't. it's a contract that's really difficult to get out of and lasts forever. does she bring this up after she talks to her family or something?

Probably...she said she just spoke to her mother...I didn't make the connection, though.

[misombra]

i don't know. i think she talks to her family and they fill her head up with this shit and she throws it on you. that's what it sounds like from here. because it seems you've had this discussion a million times before and she never actually follows through with leaving and you guys make up and have anal sex and everything is fine until she talks to her family again.

[AdminOnline]

Maybe you can look at the quote for the month on top of the forum...

change 'lover' to 'family' ..

[Junket]

i don't know. i think she talks to her family and they fill her head up with this shit and she throws it on you. that's what it sounds like from here. because it seems you've had this discussion a million times before and she never actually follows through with leaving and you guys make up and have anal sex and everything is fine until she talks to her family again.

Problem is that I find it very draining for her to throw this shit on me. It's getting old very quickly.

[Mish]

The fact that she is considering moving into her own apartment I think is an indication she might be thinking about phasing out of the relationship. I've experienced something similar to this before when a relationship reached a dead end. I would pay close attention to this development and consider ways to alleviate this if I wanted the relationship to continue.

[Junket]

The fact that she is considering moving into her own apartment I think is an indication she might be thinking about phasing out of the relationship. I've experienced something similar to this before when a relationship reached a dead end. I would pay close attention to this development and consider ways to alleviate this if I wanted the relationship to continue.

I left out a lot of details about the context of the conversation, that aspect really doesn't concern me. The core issue is the marriage stuff.

[Aeradalia]

I suspect that you and her differ fundamentally on the final destination of this relationship. You're content with how it is and would much rather it didn't change much... and she seems to think that it's suppose to go somewhere -- particularly marriage.

Sounds like a power struggle to me -- she's trying to have her way in seemingly passive-aggressive ways... and you're trying to resist.

I guess the question is... how long do you want this to go on? If you give in, what kind of relationship would this be then? A miserable one? And if she gives in, what would the relationship be then? A resentful one?

[IndiReloaded]

Fras. If you don't want to be married, you have to man up and say so. She's a big girl, she has to make her own decisions about things.

Don't be a coward about discussing these things, it will only come back to bite you.

[doppelgaenger]

Fras just wants steady pussy.

[Junket]

If marriage is the only way of keeping her in the long run, I just may have to give in.

I don't suspect it would be a very jubilant marriage, though.