Originally Posted by
searock
She's still a virgin... maybe that's what she meant by "relationship for 15-16 years olds".
After I broke up with my "second" ex (not the one I talked about on the other thread), we met a couple of times the following week to clear things up. To be honest, I wasn't 100% sure I wanted to break up for good, and he knew this. I told him exactly what your ex told you: that I had no idea what I was going to feel in a few months, that maybe the feelings would return, but that I didn't want him to be waiting around for me since I just couldn't be sure. Well... I guess that deep down, I always knew that they wouldn't return. Otherwise, I wouldn't have broken up with him. I just wasn't ready to completely accept that it was definitively over. Anyway, when we met soon after the break-up, since I was so used to being physically close to him, I wouldn't step back when he came closer to hug me, when we sat down and he held my hand, etc. I even got REALLY close to the point of kissing him when he leaned in to kiss me, because it just felt so natural, and obviously I was still attracted to him (I wouldn't have been with him all that time if I hadn't been). I just barely stopped myself in time and turned my head away, because I knew that it would have just hurt him more. It took me a little while (about a month) to realize that my confusion was just sadness at the thought of our relationship ending for good, and that I had actually made my decision a long time ago.
Basically all I'm saying is that her being confused right now, doesn't mean that this is "just a phase" that will eventually pass. She may realize more and more as time goes by that her life really is more satisfying without your relationship. And I just have to add... I also got the impression that she might have someone else on her mind. I most certainly did.
I know that you are set on moving on, but I'm afraid that you still hope for her to change her mind some day, in about a month or so. I think that in order to move on effectively, you should completely let go of this hope/expectation.
I'm sorry it went this way, but hey, high school relationships almost never last. Keep the good memories and all the lessons learned, they will turn out to be very useful soon enough :-).