Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
A couple of observations:
My comment about men who choose porn over their lover comes from the understand that these men find it easier to take care of it themselves rather than go through all it would take to make love (foreplay, getting her in the mood, doing all it takes to give her an orgasm, etc.). IF that is the case, I feel these men are selfish lovers.
It has been stated that porn causes impotence. I am not sure bout that, but it can desensitize you. It can take more and more stimulus to achieve the same level of arousal. That is not true for everyone, but it does happen. For a sex addict it is much like drugs in that it takes more and more to get the same high.
For me, there is nothing like pleasing my wife and seeing and hearing her orgasm. I LOVE foreplay and could take hours at love-play. I just don't understand guys who don't. And the older I get, the longer it takes for "recovery" so I find that I want to "save it" for her so I don't masturbate as much as I used to.
As already stated, everything on here is opinion, but all forums are like that. For me, the discussion is interesting as is gaining new insight and understanding.
The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. -- 1 Corinthians 7 (The Message)
I've seen a couple of people say "it's a matter of opinion", but the link I posted about the link between porn and impotence was NOT an opinion. Rather, it was the result of an actual study.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
I don't think occasion to moderate use of porn makes guys impotent, but an obsessive use of porn to obsessively masturbate ya I can see it. Obsessive masturbation isn't cause by watching porn tho, but can be a symptom of a mental disorder like OCD or addiction.
I am not able to to find the original study except on a medical site you need to be a member of in order to access, but the study is cited all over the internet. You can click the link I posted earlier, or look for the original yourself - maybe you can find it in your native language. The researcher is University of Padua urologist Carlo Foresta.
I don't believe in sex addiction, or porn addiction, but I DO believe in lack of self-control.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
Symptoms
While each addiction has its own set of physical, mental and emotional problems, many addictions have common symptoms. "Addiction can lead to a lack of self-control" resulting in an addict struggling to manage their" behaviour, activity" or use of the substance. An addiction also causes impairment and the addict is unable to see any harm in their actions, or if they do, they're unable to stop themselves.
As an addiction develops, a person's tolerance to a substance or "behaviour" increases leading them to want more of it and their attachment grows stronger meaning the dependency is impossible to break. Finally, when the cause of the addiction is removed, withdrawal symptoms are triggered that manifest in a negative physical or emotional response.
Huh. Vashti is a bigger idiot than I thought.
Could you please give the link to the article at the medical site, I want to see if the library of my university subscribes it. I tried to look for it through google scholar and the librarys search tool but couldn't find it. With plain old google, I do find crapload of news articles none of which link to the original source. Not even a few Italian ones I found. I also found an Italian website featuring Carlo Foresta and listed articles he has published (presumably only on some specific journal) and it wasn't on that list either.
I think this is a good thing overall. If watching porn really lowers the libido of men like the article says, it might be possible that it'll lower the average libido of men in general population to a comparable level with women. That'll make the lives of women easier when they no longer are constantly approached by horny guys suggesting sex. It might diminish the demand for prostitution completely. If we'll become impotent as well, maybe there won't be any raping either.
You can't buy love, but you pay heavily for it.
That should clarify.
Every post you make stems from the obvious fact that you think men are only good for providing you oral—and I have no idea why anyone would, either. You seem to have this "men are dumb and redundant" approach to everything because you view life through a filter of irrationality, emotion, and sexual desperation.
You're forgetting that the man you married is the reason why you aren't currently broke. Every brick you see is there because a man put it there. The only thing you've really done, up until the point you got divorced, was spend your man's hard-earned money.
I could totally believe that, cos they masturbating an everytime they masturbate that's more of their semen down the drain, an if they chronically masturbate, that's prob how why they run outta the stuff an therefore can't have kids no more cos they wasted it all masturbating. That's why I said all masturbation is bad an wrong. It's common sense.