Yeah, I read my message again just now and kinda cringed, I think 7 am was a little early for me to be thinking seriously about these things.
I'm slowly coming to realize just how long she's going to need, and that friends is as good as our relationship is going to be until then, but I'm also feeling better about that. On Wednesday I woke up to a text, it was a little bit along the lines of a pity party, but we chatted for a bit and after that the subject was all just talking about things and stuff, all day long. Then yesterday I wake up to a text continuing the convo, and it went on for most of that day too. In all, I think there were about 200 messages over those two days, according to how many minutes are left on my phone. So yeah, at least we have a good connection, and if/when the time comes I'll definitely feel more comfortable with expressing my feelings and testing her waters as well.
Thinking about the fact that I'm probably working on the foundation does help me out, and I'm pretty sure she knows how I feel already, judging by the facebook behavior of a mutual friend of ours (who was not a fan of her ex). I'll post things like pictures and articles that I feel would be interesting to her, and our friend will like every single one of them even if they're not in her own scope of interests, giving me a bit of a boost in confidence that somebody else IRL is on my side.
Thanks again