Originally Posted by
blue102
Sorry to bump this but I have an update.
I have been working on my relationship with my husband and it's wonderful. Decided to write off the online guy.
However, I got a little tipsy the other night and talked to him on AIM. I told him a bunch of stupid stuff like "I like you a lot" and "I miss you" and asked him why he quit talking to me.
He said he likes me too, and misses me, and he quit talking to me because he was depressed, but he's better now.
Asked him if it really was because I was married, and he said "maybe a bit". Asked him if he was upset that he couldn't visit, and he said "no no, I probably wouldn't have visited anyway". He told me to text him if I ever want to chat, and he'd get online.
I told him that some older guy was messaging me and he got pretty upset about that.
Then the next day I sent him a text saying sorry for the awkward conversation, it was the booze. He said "It's cool."
So: I will not initiate conversation any more with him. I feel like I said what I had to say, got it off my chest, and have closure.
I'm not sad about it, but a little embarrassed about the drunken episode.
So obviously you've not yet gotten some therapy to help you find out why you need attention from men online. Regarding one of your previous posts:
Originally Posted by
blue102
OK so thanks to you people's wonderful advice, I have decided not to talk to him anymore.
I do think my marriage is missing something because this friend was so important to me. Think I will get a therapist and work on it.
Thanks
What is your husband doing that he's toooooo busy to keep you emotionally fulfilled and from not needing to get attention from other men? Or is he just doing everything and you're issued to the point that what he gives you will NEVER be enough???
Its so much easier to blame "not being in love" anymore with your husband then to actually get the professional help you need to figure out why you THINK you are no longer in love with him. Perhaps if you stop emotionally cheating on him, you'd find that you really do love him but the other men have been blockin gyou from seeing the forest for the trees.
Time to grow up and fix this rather then cause it... because you are the cause of your own discontent.
Last edited by Wakeup; 03-04-14 at 10:35 AM.
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