He is treating you with extreme disrespect. Why are you still there? Take your child and *you* disappear for a few days. Take your cell phone, wait until he calls you in a panic for a day or so.
Then, when you finally feel like talking to him, answer. When he asks where you are, say "you first. you disappeared for two days. explain yourself"
Anything less than this and you are a doormat.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh