no autographs, please!
The more I see, the more I don't know for sure. - John Lennon
Life is ... Too Short.
"It seems we living the 'American Dream', but the people highest up got the lowest self-esteem. The prettiest people do the ugliest things ... for the road to riches and diamond rings."
He's probably already turned her off by teasing her. That's so elementary! You should move on Pal.
Last edited by carl1222; 24-03-09 at 07:56 AM.
Ahh, I see. You object to the competition. Okay... I just don't. I consider it part of the "weeding out" process.
Last edited by vashti; 24-03-09 at 07:59 AM.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
BF/GF is dating, not the same as a commitment in my book. Of course, if two people promise to abstain from having sex with other people, then they should honor that agreement or break up before they violate that agreement.
But I know you have deep-seated insecurities about competition, and I know I won't change anyone's mind.
I'm not sure how to approach the idea of picking at the commitment between two people trying to decide if it's dead or not. Seems like a scavenger's approach to finding love --- let's harvest the 'meat' before it's been 'dead' for too long.
One has to wonder at the quality of such a possible relationship... she will have recent lingering feelings for her 'ex'... whereas if she had broken up with her ex and took the necessary time to 'get over them' she would have time to sort her feelings and be more self-reliant.
I just don't see building a relationship --- something that is incredibly difficult to maintain... perhaps one of the most difficult things in life to 'work --- under such impulsive conditions...
However, I know I can't dissuade you... love/infatuation has a way of overwhelming the more logical side... So my advice would be that once you do wrestle her from the arms of her boyfriend... that you take things very slowly from then on... give her time to sort her feelings...
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen
When do you think it should end, vashti? 30? 40? 80? never????? At some time you have to stop looking for Prince Charming ... or you will die in your vain pursuit! You shouldn't be with someone you consider a "weed." At some point, you decide he is a flower, and stop looking for a BETTER flower.
Carl.
Last edited by carl1222; 24-03-09 at 08:25 AM.
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen
Dating is not bf / gf though. It's two strangers seeing each other from time to time. When I was dating two girls at the same time I wasn't a bf of either one of them. There was no exclusivity, no agreement and no commitment.
I agree^^^
Vash, let's not go personal. You know where that will lead.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~