Is It worth it?

[mhussain]

As a woman, I like men who are nice and respect women. But it's just that some guys are too nice and have a low self confidence. I don't mean you because I don't know you.

Hi Ladan, As far as I know, the women I liked, I tried not to show my lack of confidence to them by not acting in that way. Emphasis on I tried, whether I came across like that, I do not know

I'm speaking in general. I think being nice is very good and women love it in a guy when he has a high self confidence and self respect.

I think I have confidence, and I have self respect.

But if a guy is nice but doesn't have much self confidence, isn't proud of himself, and tries to win the approval of the girl, honestly we don't find it attractive.

I do not know what being proud of oneself means. If it is being certain in the knowledge that what I am doing is correct, than yes that I am. But I honestly do not feel the need to advertise it to others.

Also trying to win the approval of women. I also do not understand. I have held to the belief for a long time that I must be with others as I am, and not pretend to be someone else. And apparently not many like me for who I am.

So if it's happened many times and many girls have told it to you, do you think it's possible that you are too nice to them?

I do not know. Which is the sad part. I also do not know the subtleties between nice and too nice.

Maybe I should start being like other hip people. Lets see how spectacularly I fail at that!

Hussain

[vashti]

Maybe I should start being like other hip people. Lets see how spectacularly I fail at that!

Hussain

Nonsense. You were intended to be who YOU are, not who someone else is. Your girl is out there - you just haven't met her yet. Just be patient and practice setting boundaries.

[Mathias]

Nonsense. You were intended to be who YOU are, not who someone else is. Your girl is out there - you just haven't met her yet. Just be patient and practice setting boundaries.

Listen to vashti, she knows stuff.

ESPECIALLY the bolded part.