It's been 5 years still did not forgive

[Gribble]

When your husband hurts you it indirectly hurts your son.

[FrenchMaid]

TAVS doesn't post here anymore, but I'll try to remember to mention you to him next time I talk to him. I don't know who else you remember... maybe lloyd? He doesn't post here anymore, either. Misombra is still here. do you remember her? She posts here, but not all that often.

Oh yes, yes i remember LLoyd... he keep bugging me about the definition that sound the same in french and english.. because i keep screwing up when I wrote something!!! it was pretty funny... Yes i remember Misombra too.. nice person...
I am trying to remember the other guy's name he was pretty funny too, it will get to me... well i hope

[FrenchMaid]

When your husband hurts you it indirectly hurts your son.

He never does it in front of him.. he pretty cleaver.. if he does that he and show it to his son he know that his son will have him...

[zro]

Hey ZRO
Yep you don't know my story and really i really don't care, because they way you talk to me... Let me asking you a question... fist of all he's the one which wanted me to say.. and then tell me why is that its ok for him to bit me up and get away with that I am a slot, get a grip buddy.... really....you have no right to call me a slot... every one make mistake in their live.... I guess you never did such a thing you... right

you think i give a **** about you, i have never met you and probably never will - but i give you the same answer that i would have for anyone with the same situation - cheating is a strong indicator of a slut/male whore, surely you can see my point of view, if you are going to act like a slut you are going to be called a slut....simple

i didnt know that your "boyfriend" hits you, you never mentioned that in your original post - i am not a ****ing psychic, but it still doesnt change the fact that you acted like a slut...two wrongs dont make a right, its like me saying i can kill someone because they stole from me....maybe thats an extreme comparison but you get my ****ing point

it is unfortunate that you have a kid mixed up in this, but you should not stay with him for his/her sake, its better to live in a single happy home rather than a volatile/hostile two parent home, your "boyfriend" is a ****ing coward and a bitch made mother****er, he does not care about you if he is willing to harm you, a female who is physically weaker than himself - surely you are not so dumb that you cant see that basic and simple fact

get angry at me if you want, but i am just trying to give you the honest ****ing truth and the best possible advice that i can

[Gribble]

I wouldn't even bother responding to the above, Frenchmaid. He'll just keep going and going without end. Better to just disregard him.

[zro]

if i am wrong then so be it, you are telling me that cheating is not being a slut???? unlike you gerbil some people have enough of a backbone to back up their claims, you obvioulsy dont so shut the **** up and stay in your place, let me guess you are the type that lets his girlfriend/boyfriend walk all over him

[FrenchMaid]

I wouldn't even bother responding to the above, Frenchmaid. He'll just keep going and going without end. Better to just disregard him.

Yes, thanks I kind of notice...can't even say a word with "**** this and **** that... he must be pretty young

[anachronistic]

How long does a men will hold an affair agains you?
Its been 5 years and he still hold stuff agains me.... what the heck, why can't he forgive.....?????

Oh and i forgot to say that really it was not an affair that's how he call it... but it happen once, and really we did not have intercourse..

well if i were him, i'd forgive you, for the sake of religion, but i would not want to be in a relationship with you, and if you continued to bother me, i'd get a restraining order on you.

hopefully you learned something from whatever you did, and just leave the poor guy alone. you hurt his feelings enough.

edit: he's your husband? for goodness sake. what a mess. i'm sorry that's out of my league.

[FrenchMaid]

if i am wrong then so be it, you are telling me that cheating is not being a slut???? unlike you gerbil some people have enough of a backbone to back up their claims, you obvioulsy dont so shut the **** up and stay in your place, let me guess you are the type that lets his girlfriend/boyfriend walk all over him

You know i don't get it... why do you have to be so rude .... is this making you feel good or what ...

[zro]

Frenchmaid

have to admit i sometimes enjoy inflicting physical pain onto others, but this does not give me any satisfaction, i cant watch you bleed.....

believe it or not in this case, i am actually trying to help, alright try this, forget about me i am just a young rude mother****er who likes being tough over the internet, ring your mum, dad, sister, brother, friend, uncle, auntie, grandmother/father, heck even an honest looking stranger and ask them these simple questions:

is my husband a coward for hitting me??

is cheating considered slutty behaviour??

is it healthy for a kid to have a violent father and a doormat for a mother??

given the current situation, should i leave or stay??

honestly i am trying to ****ing help, get the answers to these questions

EDIT: i just realised something, if you thought i was talking to you Fenchmaid in that post that you quoted, i wasnt, that was directed to gerbil bitch, the above was to you though

[anachronistic]

so yea, frenchmaid, you should think of ways you can make it up to your husband and make it certain that it will not happen again.

[FrenchMaid]

Frenchmaid

have to admit i sometimes enjoy inflicting physical pain onto others, but this does not give me any satisfaction, i cant watch you bleed.....

believe it or not in this case, i am actually trying to help, alright try this, forget about me i am just a young rude mother****er who likes being tough over the internet, ring your mum, dad, sister, brother, friend, uncle, auntie, grandmother/father, heck even an honest looking stranger and ask them these simple questions:

is my husband a coward for hitting me??

is cheating considered slutty behaviour??

is it healthy for a kid to have a violent father and a doormat for a mother??

given the current situation, should i leave or stay??

honestly i am trying to ****ing help, get the answers to these questions

EDIT: i just realised something, if you thought i was talking to you Fenchmaid in that post that you quoted, i wasnt, that was directed to gerbil bitch, the above was to you though

ZRO
I really don't understand how you try to help me by telling me i am a freak_n Slut...and not understanding my point of view... I told you before yes its wrong what i did .... but he wanted me to stay to try to work thing out...
but for at least 4 years he harass me with questions after questions...
I told him that i will leave so he can have anormal live but he told me no.. what the heck you want me to do...

Regarding asking question to my family well that will be pretty hard
*My dad is DEAD at the age of 35 (cancer took him)
*My MOM well she outside the province, and really me and my brother had to take care of ourself after my dad died... so i don't have much of a relationship with my mom...
*uncle and aunt... i have no contact with them...
*Brother he is too busy working in different place can't reach him..
*Grand parents in both side dead (cancer)

I basically don't have much family...we not all that lucky

[meh]

If you're coming here asking us to agree with you and give you support, telling you to hang in there etc, then you named your thread wrong.

You were asking for advice, people gave it to you. I'll spell it out. YOU ARE IN A DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP.

For your own sake and the sake of your child, get the hell out of it find someone better.

Alternatively, if you are determined to try, stop beating around the damn bush and have a heart to heart with your husband/boyfriend etc - talk about everything in detail, get it out in the open, and reach an agreement.

I wasn't being sarcastic about the fact that he was beating you - I realize that he is and that makes it even worse.

I'm just baffled how people like you and your husband can make a mockery of the concept of love and family for 19 years yet others who are compassionate and understanding to one another are robbed of their lives. Guess they mean it when they say life isn't fair.

[zro]

sorry to hear about your family, i mean it

have to say it still doesnt change what i posted - cheating is not right and is considered slutty behaviour..end of story, the problem is that the trust is gone and how long it takes to come back depends varies from person to person, me personally i would have told you to **** off right there and then.....but then again, i would NEVER physically assault a female especially a woman i claim to "love"

however, if your husband keeps on hitting you (i assume he hit you in the past, dont know if he still does???) - who gives a **** about him - he is a worthless sack of shit, leave him, it might be hard and require some planning - but it HAS to be done, not only for your sake but for the sake of your child, next time he lays a finger on you, ring the police - you have to stop being a doormat and stand up for yourself and your son as well

[FrenchMaid]

sorry to hear about your family, i mean it

have to say it still doesnt change what i posted - cheating is not right and is considered slutty behaviour..end of story, the problem is that the trust is gone and how long it takes to come back depends varies from person to person, me personally i would have told you to **** off right there and then.....but then again, i would NEVER physically assault a female especially a woman i claim to "love"

however, if your husband keeps on hitting you (i assume he hit you in the past, dont know if he still does???) - who gives a **** about him - he is a worthless sack of shit, leave him, it might be hard and require some planning - but it HAS to be done, not only for your sake but for the sake of your child, next time he lays a finger on you, ring the police - you have to stop being a doormat and stand up for yourself and your son as well

I was really close to my dad, me and him went every where together...when he died its really affect me and still does...but life is like that...

I understand you opinion ZRO, as you don't know me and never meet me well its understandable how you feel... i am not a bad person i went a long way in life try to survive on my own, i was rape when i was younger and have a 21 year old daughter too.. so my life was not a rose bush... but i guess i am not the only one like that...
All i was asking was... if he wants me there, and he does not want me to leave why can he forgive me.. i am not saying to forget what happen but forgive me for what i have done... so he can see the better parts of me..

No he does not hit anymore for at least 1 years... now he just gave me the silet treatment when he won't talk to me for days... so...