Originally Posted by
Frasbee
If you're not giving anyone else an honest chance, then of course the only person you'll only ever think about is this one girl.
Look at it similar to the no contact thing. Just because a person have discontinued contact with their ex, doesn't necessarily mean they're suddenly happy go lucky without them. I think you might need to relearn to appreciate another person. Like a new puppy to replace an old dog.
Exactly. Couldn't have said it better.
OV, the reason I spend so much time on this is that, simply, you remind me a LOT of my husband at your age. Its a mindset I understand VERY well. The things I caution you about in other threads come from that deep understanding. Given, however, that my advice comes from a single experience, you must take it or leave it for whatever its worth to you. My own son will be similar in temperment when he gets older & will have the same type of issues, I expect. So, if my advice helps you or anyone else, wonderful. Likewise, your valuable postings & experiences are something that I read to understand & hopefully apply later for my son's benefit. Sometimes I just post for fun & am bored. Usually, tho, I am trying to learn something. I hope you don't mind & this gives you a better idea of where I am coming from.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh