Help me guys please. I want to know what he meant

[Cain]

You have the tendency to do that IndiReloaded. It seems to me that yuu read a post and just take out what you want to out of it and use that to attact the person who owns the post. I wanna thank you tho for taking the time to read on and comment, I really do. You're right, I will be lucky if he still wants to make a go of this. I accept full blame of our relationship going sour. But if it dont work, atleast I can say that I tried.

And yes! I am a student and stay at home mom. is that impossible? have you ever heard of on line classes? I am what I said. I stayed home because one of us had to get out of the military service when we had our boy. I just happened to be the one who got out. but oh well, that dont matter cuz I enjoy being with my kids, watching them grow in front of my eyes rather than in pictures.

which of what I said sounds inconsistent to you? from the moment you enter in here you have done nothing but attact me with harsh words and name calling. Like you just automatically knows about our life and what kind of person I was to my fiance or ex-fiance..
Okay, so you are married for 20 years.. whoopdifreakindoo for you. I came here for advice. If you want to give me advice, i'll be happy to listen but please do try to refrain yourself from name calling.
And just so you know about our kids.. yes both our kids. They have been both our kids from the moment we enter this relationship. He knew everything about me and our daughter and he never once treated her like she wasnt his at all. I wont be having this discussion at ALL if I even suspect that it's our daughter. Shoot, I do LOVE him but I will never ever choose him over our kid(my daughter as you so love to point out)..

You think Indi is mean? Hell... you apparently haven't seen my posts.

Regardless, it's going to be extremely difficult for you to work full time, go to school full time in a nursing program, and raise two kids. There's no question about it. I'm in nursing school and find it difficult to manage a full time job and nursing class.

By the way, unless you're an LPN, nursing can't be done online. The first two years have to be done IN CLASS (though there are few classes offered online I'm sure, but not the nursing ones), unless you already have your associate's.

And you need to have another heart to heart with him before you two do anything drastic. It sounded as if he still wants it to work regardless of what he said. Find out.

And yes, if he's a jealous guy and he won't change, you're going to have to avoid ANY males that have crushes on you... and you have to accept he's jealous if you want to make it work.

[vashti]

Is this turing into a nursing school forum? I am also in nursing school.... And yeah - no one in my program works full time. The one woman who did work full time flunked out.

[Cain]

Is this turing into a nursing school forum? I am also in nursing school.... And yeah - no one in my program works full time. The one woman who did work full time flunked out.

Exactly. I'm in my LPN program right now and am only working part time... and then I'm taking a year off before starting my ASN so that my gf can finish her master's and then I will only have to work part time.

Not only is it difficult to work full time and go to nursing school, but just passing isn't enough. You're going into the medical field and you need to devote as much time into it as possible. You have other people's lives in your hand.

[vashti]

... not to mention that a grade of 75 will get you a "C" in any regular class, but is considered an "F" in nursing school.

I am in an RN program... one more semester. YAY!

[Cain]

75? Lucky.

You have to have an 80 to pass in my program. Flunk one test and you're pretty much screwed.

[vashti]

How about the math? We have 4 medication calculation tests that have to be passed with 100%. Fortunately, I like math.

Anyway, I haven't had any trouble passing any exams, but then again, I study ALL the time.

Hey - did you start as a CNA?

[Cain]

I didn't work as an STNA. We had to get the certification card before even getting into the program though. I honestly can't stand how overworked and under appreciated STNAs are and will only do that as a last resort until I can get through my program.

[vashti]

I can't blame you there...

[Cain]

Just can't imagine a 12 hour shift, 3 days a week, of nothing but wiping people's asses and giving showers.

[davidsbabygirl]

I have been a CNA for 3 years. its not as bad as people think.

[Cain]

Maybe not in your area, but I did my clinical in the Alzheimer's ward and that was absolutely horrid.

[Gigabitch]

If it's over between us, then let me go. I can survive on my own and I damn well have the means to support our kids also.

I'm sure if it weren't for the kids, he'd already be gone. It's not about providing a place for YOU to live, it's about trying to maintain a stable family structure. It isn't about YOU at all.

Sure, I'll bet you could afford to support them, but you need to wake up and smell the coffee if you think you're going to be granted full custody of your kids should you and your babydaddy actually split. He'll get them half of the time. They will live in two houses. Does that sound good for them? No. It doesn't.

Back off from him. I can totally understand why he's saying these things- you messed with the trust, and for what? So you could keep in touch with some old admirer? Get your priorities straight.

He's pissed right now, and you have this golden opportunity to actually get him back if you settle down and just bide your time. He'll probably come back to your bed eventually. Jeeze- he's right down the hall.

You don't need to quit being friends with all of your guy friends, just the ones that have some kind of romantic association, like your ex sergeant. Yes, he has to go. Should have gone a long time ago, along with anyone else who ever wanted you that way. That is NOT a friend. He's just on the back burner.