I've been talking to this girl online for over a month

[blackzj52]

no offense meant towards you man, but this is kinda stupid.
maybe its just uv never felt close to somebody before. maybe u just want her to be that special somebody. but dude, youv never met her in person, you have no clue what shes like. for all you know she could be some freak that does drugs, already has a kid, smells bad, is very moody and/or much worse. you have no idea who this person is. you just know them from what they tell you. and whos to say she hasnt been lying out her ass the entire time?

can i ask how you two met?

i personally think you need to get out in the world and meet people, make lots of friends, meet girls, and you will find one you really like and vis versa. if ur not that social then maybe its time to learn/try.
you need to get ur head outa ur as and get out in the world.
im really not trying to be an asshole here. im honestly trying to hlp you, or make sense to you

and no offense, but there is no way you can actually love this girl already. some people take a long time, some it doesnt. i dont. my ex and i fell for each other in less than a month of dating. we had been talking for a month before we started dating. and we had started dating right before school got out for the summer(about a week before), so we hung out everyday like all day (when summer came around).

[Anything4MyLove]

your gonna think im crazy but ive been in a long distance relationship for 2 years, its been really tough but you got to be dedicated and have to have time for them if not it goes downhill quick. hes tried to come here, he came a year ago but unfortunately i wasnt here when he came. we've tried to see each other again but its difficult to do so. im gonna try to go in november but its not guaranteed yet. it pays off if you really love them, we're the complete opposite of each other but we're very comfortable with each other

in this situation i think the girl is just scared to get close to someone over the internet because now a days its just to dangerous or you get criticized. if your gonna get into this with a open mind and not care what others think. just try to let her know that you love her or care for her and not to be scared of being in a long distant relationship

Thank you for your advice. She's not scared of people knowing that we have this long distance relationship because she's told me. We're not total opposite of each other but we're comfortable with each other too. We're both young so I understand that sometimes she can be caught up in her own life. She's a crazy anime, jrock, and Japanese fasion girl. She's on vacation right now having fun but she'll come back for me because I believe she loves me too or she wouldn't be saying to me some of the things that she did.

[Anything4MyLove]

no offense meant towards you man, but this is kinda stupid.
maybe its just uv never felt close to somebody before. maybe u just want her to be that special somebody. but dude, youv never met her in person, you have no clue what shes like. for all you know she could be some freak that does drugs, already has a kid, smells bad, is very moody and/or much worse. you have no idea who this person is. you just know them from what they tell you. and whos to say she hasnt been lying out her ass the entire time?

can i ask how you two met?

i personally think you need to get out in the world and meet people, make lots of friends, meet girls, and you will find one you really like and vis versa. if ur not that social then maybe its time to learn/try.
you need to get ur head outa ur as and get out in the world.
im really not trying to be an asshole here. im honestly trying to hlp you, or make sense to you

and no offense, but there is no way you can actually love this girl already. some people take a long time, some it doesnt. i dont. my ex and i fell for each other in less than a month of dating. we had been talking for a month before we started dating. and we had started dating right before school got out for the summer(about a week before), so we hung out everyday like all day (when summer came around).

I appreciate it bro. It's true that I don't go out a lot because I just don't like to go out. But this girl is real. She's not a freak...lol. There's no way she would be lying to me because I would be able to tell if she's lying to me. We'll see how it goes.

[Junket]

I appreciate it bro. It's true that I don't go out a lot because I just don't like to go out. But this girl is real. She's not a freak...lol. There's no way she would be lying to me because I would be able to tell if she's lying to me. We'll see how it goes.

No...no you wouldn't...

But that's besides the point.

I once read that it's not just how a persons treats you but how they treat others as well. This works both ways.

There are things you simply do not know about her. Things she wouldn't think or even know to explain to you. Maybe she's the type of person that is very open and warm on the internet, but freezes up in real life. Or maybe she's all that, but in real life and real attention seeker, always obnoxiously looking to be the center of attention.

Maybe she's the type that doesn't mind if you glance at an attractive girl (you are no exception), and maybe she's the type that will take it personally, but never tells you outright what is wrong. Instead leaving you running in circles trying to figure out why she's punishing in her passive aggressive manner.

Look, in the end, it don't mean shit to me if you one day get married, or get bored of this by next week. The least you could do is pull your head out of those digital clouds and really consider the reality, logic of it all. The internet, or even the phone will never provide the solace you're both seeking. And when you're talking about years? Trust me, unless you start interacting with each other in real life your conversations will get boring, real fast. I know this from experience in reference to my current relationship. And I know this from having in dabbled in the on-line "relationships" as well.

Try setting some realistic goals.

"Years" before you ever meet each other is not a realistic goal.

[Anything4MyLove]

No...no you wouldn't...

But that's besides the point.

I once read that it's not just how a persons treats you but how they treat others as well. This works both ways.

There are things you simply do not know about her. Things she wouldn't think or even know to explain to you. Maybe she's the type of person that is very open and warm on the internet, but freezes up in real life. Or maybe she's all that, but in real life and real attention seeker, always obnoxiously looking to be the center of attention.

Maybe she's the type that doesn't mind if you glance at an attractive girl (you are no exception), and maybe she's the type that will take it personally, but never tells you outright what is wrong. Instead leaving you running in circles trying to figure out why she's punishing in her passive aggressive manner.

Look, in the end, it don't mean shit to me if you one day get married, or get bored of this by next week. The least you could do is pull your head out of those digital clouds and really consider the reality, logic of it all. The internet, or even the phone will never provide the solace you're both seeking. And when you're talking about years? Trust me, unless you start interacting with each other in real life your conversations will get boring, real fast. I know this from experience in reference to my current relationship. And I know this from having in dabbled in the on-line "relationships" as well.

Try setting some realistic goals.

"Years" before you ever meet each other is not a realistic goal.

Maybe mine will be an exception. I really do believe her when she says she'll wait for me. We are very similar in our personalities and I do think it's possible if we both are committed to making it happen. I won't find out the truth unless I let things take its course.

[excowho]

Well whatever you choose, it does sound like its a relatively new experience for you.
Whatever happens learn from it.
We can all sit here and tell you what we've learned through experiences but the only way you'll understand it is living it yourself.

Best of luck to you man.

[Junket]

Maybe mine will be an exception. I really do believe her when she says she'll wait for me. We are very similar in our personalities and I do think it's possible if we both are committed to making it happen. I won't find out the truth unless I let things take its course.

No, you don't "let" things take their course, either you take action, or nothing will happen. Dear god, I couldn't think of a faster way for your romance to fizzle.

[bluesummer]

I would never be willing to wait for some guy I won't even meet in person for a couple of years. Especially not when there are perfectly wonderful flesh and blood men here, within my grasp, that I could date and actually BE with.

One of you will crack. Everyone thinks they're going to be the exception - EVERYBODY. I did when I was that age too.

[Anything4MyLove]

Well whatever you choose, it does sound like its a relatively new experience for you.
Whatever happens learn from it.
We can all sit here and tell you what we've learned through experiences but the only way you'll understand it is living it yourself.

Best of luck to you man.

Thanks. I sure will enjoy this every much.

[Anything4MyLove]

I would never be willing to wait for some guy I won't even meet in person for a couple of years. Especially not when there are perfectly wonderful flesh and blood men here, within my grasp, that I could date and actually BE with.

One of you will crack. Everyone thinks they're going to be the exception - EVERYBODY. I did when I was that age too.

I am taking the chance no matter how hopeless it seems.

[Anything4MyLove]

No, you don't "let" things take their course, either you take action, or nothing will happen. Dear god, I couldn't think of a faster way for your romance to fizzle.

What can I do?
I have no money to come see her and it's the same with her.

[bluesummer]

I'm going to make reference to your original post:

Lately, she seems to not be as interested in me as before. We talk on MSN and now I notice that she doesn't show me love as much as before(meaning sending me kisses and hugs and other things). I also send her messages and she doesn't respond to them as often anymore.

you think a girl that's already losing interest after a month is going to wait a few years? Just think about it. I think you know the answer.

[blackzj52]

I appreciate it bro. It's true that I don't go out a lot because I just don't like to go out. But this girl is real. She's not a freak...lol. There's no way she would be lying to me because I would be able to tell if she's lying to me. We'll see how it goes.

ok then heres what i suggest you do:
go out and hang around people, hang around ur friends, meet people.
be social and enjoy urself, stop staying around home all day waiting to hear back from this girl. go out and have fun. and if u must, i guess keep talking to this girl at the same time. but if you happen to meet a decent girl in real life who there is a mutual attraction between you two, dont blow her off cuz u have this internet gf.
i really mean that. keep this internet chick on the backburner if you must.

[lesa]

Have you spoken on the phone? Heard her voice? How do you know this is not a 42 year old anti-social man getting a laugh? How do you know that she is serious? She could be a porn star pretending to 'wait' for you?


Why did you agree to pursue this relationship knowing that you cannot afford it?

[Anything4MyLove]

I'm going to make reference to your original post:




you think a girl that's already losing interest after a month is going to wait a few years? Just think about it. I think you know the answer.

I actually don't. Despite her behavior lately I think she's in love with me. She's only 19 btw and I think she still want to have fun with her life and not be with me all the time online. But she's thinking about me. I know that by her actions.