Please help me, I am confused

[gaaserud]

Definitely too soon to be looking at her as a potential mother of your children.

And she didn't reject you. Rejecting you would be saying, "I don't want to go out with you ever." All she said was she was busy tonight.

Hehe, ofcourse, but she would be a great mom And there is not many girls I see as a potential mother of my children.

If you got the same message as i did, you wouldnt feel rejected?

[Cain]

Hehe, ofcourse, but she would be a great mom And there is not many girls I see as a potential mother of my children.

If you got the same message as i did, you wouldnt feel rejected?

No! Because you weren't rejected! She's not obligated to go out with you if there's something else she had planned.

[gaaserud]

No! Because you weren't rejected! She's not obligated to go out with you if there's something else she had planned.

Ofcourse, but if a girl is interested, she would have passed on this date, just because she was going to study/have a girlsnight.

THAT is why i feel rejected.

[Cain]

Ofcourse, but if a girl is interested, she would have passed on this date, just because she was going to study/have a girlsnight.

THAT is why i feel rejected.

Bullshit.

If she had something planned with friends of hers, she's not going to just give it up for you. You aren't even dating!

[gaaserud]

Bullshit.

If she had something planned with friends of hers, she's not going to just give it up for you. You aren't even dating!

I would appreciate it if you would drop the tone. I am not attacking you, I am feeling bad today, and im allowed to, even if you dont think I should do so.

I am going to play it slow from now on, and if god wants it, we will find a way to work it out. She is really great, I wish all of you knew her so you could understand. She brightens up every room she enters

[Cain]

I would appreciate it if you would drop the tone. I am not attacking you, I am feeling bad today, and im allowed to, even if you dont think I should do so.

I am going to play it slow from now on, and if god wants it, we will find a way to work it out. She is really great, I wish you knew her so you could understand.

What tone?

First of all, fate doesn't exist. If you leave things in God's hands then you and her will never have a chance. And stop thinking she's the most amazing girl in the world. You're the kind of guy that puts the pussy on a pedestal.. the same kind of guy that gets walked all over in a relationship. You're suffering from one-itis. You're worshiping a girl you aren't dating or sleeping with. I don't have to know her. I've met some amazing women. I was even feeling like you were after I WAS rejected by my ex. But like I did, you'll get over it.

[ecojeanne]

ok mr, you have actually angered me tonight! how dare you assume she has nothing better to do than hang out with you. you are NOT the centre of the universe, and it has absolutely NOTHING to do with language. this girl would better off a million miles away from you. i hope she has the sense to reject you permenantly. as you can see i don't in any way feel sorry for you. you are NOT entitled to her, lets get that straight!

[carl1222]

As long as you realize that asking her out tonight by contacting her this morning was a BIG mistake, there is no reason to believe that you can't put your relationship back on track.

She didn't slam the door on you. Believe me, if she hadn't lied to you and told you her true reaction instead, it would have been much worse.

Don't EVER tell her that you caught her in a lie. EVER!!! Pretend as though you never heard it.

If you care about her as much as you say, make her feel like she's your first priority rather than an afterthought.

Call her TOMORROW and be sure to say something like "I realize that contacting you so late yesterday was a mistake, I'm sorry. Would you like to go out next Saturday instead?"

Girls appreciate (and are surprised) when a guy realizes his own mistakes without having them pointed out to him, so the apology is a huge plus in your favor.

Good luck, and enjoy the movie together next Saturday night.

Carl.

[gaaserud]

What tone?

First of all, fate doesn't exist. If you leave things in God's hands then you and her will never have a chance. And stop thinking she's the most amazing girl in the world. You're the kind of guy that puts the pussy on a pedestal.. the same kind of guy that gets walked all over in a relationship. You're suffering from one-itis. You're worshiping a girl you aren't dating or sleeping with. I don't have to know her. I've met some amazing women. I was even feeling like you were after I WAS rejected by my ex. But like I did, you'll get over it.

You know what tone. You were attacking me, and i will not take it. I feel rejected, and how i FEEL is none of your business.

I agree that i am putting her up on a pedestole. But what are your advice for this? Just stop giving her attention? I really need advice for this, i am not being sarcastic.

ok mr, you have actually angered me tonight! how dare you assume she has nothing better to do than hang out with you. you are NOT the centre of the universe, and it has absolutely NOTHING to do with language. this girl would better off a million miles away from you. i hope she has the sense to reject you permenantly. as you can see i don't in any way feel sorry for you. you are NOT entitled to her, lets get that straight!

Ok, remember your prozac.

[gaaserud]

As long as you realize that asking her out tonight by contacting her this morning was a BIG mistake, there is no reason to believe that you can't put your relationship back on track.

She didn't slam the door on you. Believe me, if she hadn't lied to you and told you her true reaction instead, it would have been much worse.

Don't EVER tell her that you caught her in a lie. EVER!!! Pretend as though you never heard it.

If you care about her as much as you say, make her feel like she's your first priority rather than an afterthought.

Call her TOMORROW and be sure to say something like "I realize that contacting you so late yesterday was a mistake, I'm sorry. Would you like to go out next Saturday instead?"

Girls appreciate (and are surprised) when a guy realizes his own mistakes without having them pointed out to him, so the apology is a huge plus in your favor.

Good luck, and enjoy the movie together next Saturday night.

Carl.

Thank you for the advise! I will call her tomorrow, and tell her.
Hopefully she will be happy, if not, at least I`ll have a good conscience.

[Cain]

You know what tone. You were attacking me, and i will not take it. I feel rejected, and how i FEEL is none of your business.

I agree that i am putting her up on a pedestole. But what are your advice for this? Just stop giving her attention? I really need advice for this, i am not being sarcastic.

No, attacking you would be calling you a desperate loser. Just because I don't talk to you like your mother would doesn't mean that I'm attacking you.

My advice is stop worshiping this girl. Were you awkward growing up? Didn't have a lot of girlfriends? Struggled to meet women?

[gaaserud]

No, attacking you would be calling you a desperate loser. Just because I don't talk to you like your mother would doesn't mean that I'm attacking you.

My advice is stop worshiping this girl. Were you awkward growing up? Didn't have a lot of girlfriends? Struggled to meet women?

I am not a shrink, but I am quite sure you are the kind of person not willing to admit to anything. You came at me hard, and i didnt appreciate it. I came here for some advise and some cheering up, not thrash talk.

I am not worshipping this girl, but i like her alot. If you knew her, you would too.

[ecojeanne]

I am not a shrink, but I am quite sure you are the kind of person not willing to admit to anything. You came at me hard, and i didnt appreciate it. I came here for some advise and some cheering up, not thrash talk.

I am not worshipping this girl, but i like her alot. If you knew her, you would too.

no you're not worshipping her, your acting like you own her! get a grip!

[gaaserud]

no you're not worshipping her, your acting like you own her! get a grip!

Really? Please elaborate.

[carl1222]

Hahaha ... mincing words again i see, Jeanne.

Here's my final take on what happened. Gaaserud has probably been procrastinating all week trying to get up the courage to ask her out tonight.

He was clueless as to the inappropriateness and her inevitable reaction to such a late request, and felt like he was being punished for having finally gotten the courage to ask her out, a mental process that she, of course, was unaware of.

If the true facts are any different from what I just spelled out, then I agree with your post completely. His tone toward the end made me feel like I should give him the benefit of the doubt.

Carl.