Thinking it might be over

[misombra]

what did she say that was so horrible?

[vashti]

I'd love to see that email. It would sure give us an insight as to how it must be to date CAM.

[Lite]

BTW, without knowing more I would guess she is not crazy, just desperate to find a way to connect to you. Possible?

Once upon a time standing outside your love's house in a trench coat holding a boombox playing Peter Gabriel music would have been considered hugely romantic. These days it's grounds for being charged with stalking.

Remember. Nothing says, "I love you!" like a restraining order...

She's upset, and frantic. People do strange things when they're frantic and having trouble with the loss of connection.

[CAM]

Wow. It *would* have been better if you two didn't communicate this holiday.

Instead of being so dismissive, Cam, (defense mechanism) I wonder why you can't find it in yourself to be kind? What has she really done to you, after all?

If she wants to apologize, let her. If you don't want to see her anymore, then break it off. But you are old enough, Cam to do this with a bit more finesse, I should think?

BTW, without knowing more I would guess she is not crazy, just desperate to find a way to connect to you. Possible?

Well, yes. There was an email this morning that indicated that she was totally surprised by my reaction to things--that is, "its over." She indicated that she thought that I liked strong women and challenges and that we'd been "too much inside of our heads" and that she was trying to express the emotions that she saw within us. Note: I like strong women, but not what appeared to be a delusional woman.

She said that I'd been so expressive and insightful and that I'd indicated how glad I was to meet her...that she felt that I must be feeling the same as her. (I know that comes as a shock to all of you...me being expressive and insightful). I was sincere in all of my feelings for her but she kind of took things way too far way too quickly for me...I expressed my concern that I could only deal with so much at a time, but apparently that doesn't matter.

I'm not full of myself--sorry to disappoint you. I have a very routine life because that's what has kept me alive (literally) for several years. I cannot easily change without it seriously effecting my health. I sleep 10-12 hours a day just to stay healthy. It is a reality.

[IndiReloaded]

I'm not full of myself--sorry to disappoint you. I have a very routine life because that's what has kept me alive (literally) for several years. I cannot easily change without it seriously effecting my health. I sleep 10-12 hours a day just to stay healthy. It is a reality.

I hope this comment isn't directed at me, as I never said such. But FWIW, I don't think you're full of yourself. I do think you overreacted. And that happens to the best of us, even those who are usually in control. I think I have a rather good idea about your mindset, actually.

Anyway, sounds to me you are communicating again. Perfect time to dial back and think about what went wrong, both of you.