He swatted me!

[Junket]

I imagine dishing out a spanking to a pouting, sulking girlfriend who's trying to comandeer your attention at a concert might be rather satisfying.

Exactly, she totally tried to spin it to make it seem like she was the innocent victim.

[lesa]

lol Frasbee what CB said is not a good thing for the couple.

Frasbee likes a little abuse.

[Charlie Boy II]

My man would gently hold me and walk us back to the vehicle.

your man is ghey

[lesa]

My guy has done none of the above. It is only my guess. He certainly would not do the above. He has way too much class for that.

If ghey means classy then yes he is. He is a gentleman. I have always had classy gentlemen boyfriends. It's my standard.

[IndiReloaded]

I can't tell what 'swatting' is from the original post.

I can tell that he squeezed her hand, hard, until it hurt b/c he was frustrated at her 'making' him leave a concert.

I've been to a concert, once, that was so loud and lights flashing that we left. I'm sure if we hadn't we'd have permanent hearing damage. In fact, I've been to operas that I thought were too loud & took away from my enjoyment.

Loud, stimulating concerts are not for everyone. They can make sensitive ppl quite ill, end up with a migrane, have a seizure (if they are sensitive), etc. This is NOT, I suspect, you being a 'brat' and making things up.

All you did was find out that these kinds of events are not for you. He should NOT have behaved the way he did, I think it was very small of him. Anymore than someone should get upset finding out that one's partner gets sick from eating at a seafood restaurant.

What you do about this, tho, is up to you. At minimum, you should tell him this, calmly, and let him know he owes you an apology.

[noturavvrgrl]

As far as I know, I'm not omitting anything. even if I were, and he were "being patient all night" my question is about him Swatting me! Are you inferring that it's ok to not control your anger...if someone pushes you to the limit? I happen to know that I can be a HUGE brat at times, but those are MY actions that I need to control.

It was Trans-Siberian orchestra, I knew he was a Huge fan and I did not want to have to leave, I told him halfway through the concert that the lights were bothering my eyes, considering the fact that I was covering my face when the lights were strobing. He knew that I was uncomfortable. not until the point that I felt that I was nauseous did we actually leave. at that point, the concert was fairly well wrapping up. He said he was upset with me that I didn't say something sooner. I didn't realize how bad it was until we were standing in the hallway and my eyes felt like they were bouncing around inside my head. He was supposedly upset because he was worried about me. I still don't think that gives him the right to do what he did.

[lesa]

Nope there are no excuses for his actions. He controls his actions and you control yours. Perhaps the bratty attitude needs to go. That may cause unnecessary issues in the relationship.

[noturavvrgrl]

Exactly, she totally tried to spin it to make it seem like she was the innocent victim.

I tried to "spin" it??? Unless I hit him first, or was threatening to throw myself in front of a moving vehicle, what reason does someone have to crush my hand and then basically spank me in public?

Also, this was not sex play. This was "I'm angry that you are pulling away from me, (which I was doing because he was reprimanding me IN PUBLIC for not leaving sooner)"

AND we have never done the playful swatting in public before anyways.

[vashti]

I really don't know why strobe lights are used publicly- it's very common that they make people sick, and are known to trigger seizures.

About your being a brat - that is really also unacceptable. If you are in an environment that is making you sick but your B/F is enjoying, you should simply wait out in the lobby. That way, no one is bothered. I also suggest you avoid concerts in the future. It should be easy enough for him to go with someone else.

But no - I wouldn't appreciate someone aggressively handling me, nor would I tolerate it. Bratty girls should be dumped, not manhandled.

[noturavvrgrl]

I can't really see how my behaviour is even the issue here. The only "bratty" thing I did was pull my hand away because I didn't want to hold hands with someone who was reprimanding me in public, while I was still feeling dizzy for that matter. Yes, I made the decision to stay during the concert, but I was neither whining or sulking about it, and one of the reasons I didn't leave was that I was afraid that if I stood up, I might throw up on everyone, so I covered my eyes, and endured it also hoping that I would feel better once the thing ended.

[vashti]

I was referring to your admission you were bratty in general, which seems to have given some of the males on this forum the idea that you had it coming.

[noturavvrgrl]

Actually, I made that comment about "yes, I can be a huge brat at times" long AFTER the "gentlemen" in question assumed that I was whining and sulking simply because my boyfriend called me a brat. Just because I can be one at times (everyone has bad days) does not mean that I was in this instance. They assumed that my behaviour led to my boyfriend striking out at me. My point was simply that even if I had been acting badly, there is not excuse.

[Junket]

Sat there covering your eyes?

Are you a ditz?

"And I'd like you to meet my...girlfriend...who happens to be over in a corner covering her face..."

Yeah, that sounds like a wild time.

Please tell me you at least paid for your ticket.

[Indignant]

i wouldn't mind some spanking....

[DoesntMatter]

i wouldn't mind some spanking....

You need to get laid