Quote Originally Posted by lesa View Post
Boobaa is right. It's the key to your happiness.

I wouldn't do *#@&!

The only thing I would say is that the past is what it is and that we can only live in the present which will ultimately be our future. If the guy doesn't know what that means then I would leave him alone.

I've done the major encouragements, guidance, help cheering up, help finding job, credit, house, etc. After doing all that he didn't look like my lover anymore and I became his mother.

He needs to do it all on his own. If he cannot then he is not ready for a relationship. If I sound horrible, oh well. I know from experience and I won't repeat it.

Lesa I understand the argument... I do not intend to mother him... just giving him food for thought... if he shows improvement and asks for help, then I will be more than happy to help... if not... then I'm prepared for that as well.

I know the argument... if it's too much work - run like hell - because you will use far too much energy than it's worth. But, if he's willing to do the work to improve himself... I will be more than happy to cheer him on. He's offered encouraging thoughts and has even helped me greatly as I try to improve myself... so I'm just returning the favor.

Tomorrow he'll be able to talk again, and I'll be able to gauge his frame of mind when he responds to the email I sent.