Please Help You Guys.. I'm having a sticky situation...PLEASE!!

[DharmicLove]

Dharmic, if this guy is DL and is already making certain time allocations when he can be available for you, then it may not work out the way you hope it will. If you're just out for a bit of fun then you should go for it. If you're after something more, then be careful. Build the right foundation with this person first. I remember you once said that you could make any guy turn gay and fall in love with you. If you still believe in that and want to test it, then this might be where your ideal will meet a cold hard reality.

LMAO, I never said such a thing. Its not so much as making a guy turn gay, IMO, if I can make a guy go crazy over me, then that is my indication that he already exhibits gay tendecies. Guys in general just go nuts, gay or straight. This guy, however, is in a mold of all his own, because he will not bite the bait.

I think that the general consensus is that I should not move forward with this, because it WILL lead to heartache.. and God knows thats now what I want.

[DharmicLove]

I don't know what the percentages are but there must be a significant amount. If you put a straight man in a room with gays and all are discreet, I wonder would the straight guy become extremely nervous and want to leave or completely comfortable with his own sexuality and not "fear" turning gay or whatever? The guys that make the biggest deal or "fear" can actually be that DL man.

Let's do a study on the prison population find out.

Okay back to topic:

So you are only interested in him because of his looks and behavior towards you? Is he really "relationship material" for you? Wouldn't you rather have a serious long term relationship with a person comfortable with himself? Order some weed to get him alone to find out how he feels.

I mean, lesa, we are compatible in everyway. His style and mines compliment eachother. We are both beautiful on the exterior and interior. We have alot of things in common. We are both two strong personalities. He's a top and Im a bottom, and it also doesnt hurt that he is gorgeous. We talk, laugh and have fun, there is definitely an attraction there. I have a problem, however, in determining exactly what he's thinking. Should I even be trying to dig into his Psyche??

[DharmicLove]

I thought it was more like 99% according to him

Darling, why do you prefer to exaggerate??

But honestly, I bet I could have you..

[Junket]

Dharmic is gonna put it in Mish's butt.

[DharmicLove]

Dharmic is gonna put it in Mish's butt.

No, but he'll put it in my butt!! Lets just hope its over 8 inches, Im gonna need need at least minimum pleasure.

Hey, maybe he could eat this boy pussy too.. lol. No Im playing mish.. luv ya **muah**

[lesa]

You can, yes. But my concern is whether he is interested in a serious relationship. Do you want a serious relationship or only a sex relationship? Are you okay with him treating you on the DL?

From the information I gathered, it sounds like he is curious about that taboo of it all. Maybe he will "find" himself in the experience if you are willing to put your heart on the line.

[Mish]

No, but he'll put it in my butt!!

Yeh, that's most likely how I would roll if I was gay

[DharmicLove]

You can, yes. But my concern is whether he is interested in a serious relationship. Do you want a serious relationship or only a sex relationship? Are you okay with him treating you on the DL?

From the information I gathered, it sounds like he is curious about that taboo of it all. Maybe he will "find" himself in the experience if you are willing to put your heart on the line.

I think you are exactly right. The bottom line is that right now, as I sit here typing, it is clear to me that he's not looking for anything serious. But I want him so badly.

I really want a serious relationship with this man, but at the same token, I'm willing to rock his world to see where it goes. If it leads to exactly what I want, which is him to myself, exclusively, then fine. If it backfires, then I will seriously regret it.

I'm also not completely sure if he still has an attraction towards women. If he does, then of course I'd have a problem with that. And thats only because I put women on pedestal and I dont think they should be treated that way. All of my girlfriends know I have their backs and I will tell them in a heartbeat that there man is DL if that is so the case.

[starbuck]

Dharmic, I say get involved with him if you are willing to deal with the consequences. If you're going to regret it if it doesn't go the way you want, then maybe you shouldn't pursue him.

But if you are willing to see where it leads and *really* let the chips fall where they may, then go for it.

As Lesa said, maybe some kind of physical intimacy will stoke the fire for him? You'll never know until you find out, but you have to be confident that you'll be able to accept the consequences. And you seem like a confident guy in general...you're just not used to doing the chasing. Maybe this is a situation you could use some experience in? Perhaps you've had it too easy in dating if the guys usually flock to you?

Freeing yourself from the fear of rejection can be a wonderful thing to learn.