Men and porn

[Illusional]

does he know he's hurting u? just talk to him about it - by that i mean talk not tell him what to do. maybe he wants some kinky sex or doesnt think u're open enough to understand his needs.

dont take porn personally, all (young?) guys want sex a lot and doing it when ur asleep seems like his way of not letting it interfere with ur relationship.

hurting my gf or not, i would still look at porn.

raverboy

[Aeradalia]

How can porn hurt a girl? How can a girl be jealous of a bunch of imagery on a computer? It's one thing to be jealous of a woman of flesh and blood that can actually talk and touch their man... quite another to be jealous of a recorded event.

I propose further developments in women's acceptance of porn... and understanding of unfounded insecurities in relation to it. If you play with sex toys (particularly the 18 inch, 7 inch around double dong -- I've seen them in the stores -- scary)... how can porn be any different?

[Cbrider]

And just so you know, "free spirited" is a euphemism for "whore". Don't apply that description to yourself.

Beat me to it. Connotative meanings of words or sayings can be less than glorious if you don't think it through.

I can understand your feelings waking up at 2 in the morning and realizing your boy friend isn't in bed with you. In order to know that the door is locked, that would mean you are going down to find him which is a bit disturbing to me. You can talk to him about it in the morning if it bothers you. You think a locked doors causes problems? How about sneaking through the house at 2 in the morning to check up on your boyfriend?

[LoveHurts09]

How can porn hurt a girl? How can a girl be jealous of a bunch of imagery on a computer? It's one thing to be jealous of a woman of flesh and blood that can actually talk and touch their man... quite another to be jealous of a recorded event.

I propose further developments in women's acceptance of porn... and understanding of unfounded insecurities in relation to it. If you play with sex toys (particularly the 18 inch, 7 inch around double dong -- I've seen them in the stores -- scary)... how can porn be any different?

it's not the porn that hurts, it's the fact he does it behind her back.

as for illusional, i feel sorry for ur gf if u have that much care for her.

[Aeradalia]

it's not the porn that hurts, it's the fact he does it behind her back.

as for illusional, i feel sorry for ur gf if u have that much care for her.

If she was more understanding he wouldn't feel the need to do so behind her back... besides, he's not cheating or doing anything detrimental to the relationship... he's just watching recorded events of sex by strangers...

In regards to your response to illusional... you seem to have the mentality that a guy has to change for you to keep you happy. Porn is for the most part, harmless and can be quite beneficial for your sex life if you are open to it.

I hardly see this as a valid reason to bring a relationship to a screeching halt... he's a guy... he's very sexual in nature... and he's watching recorded sexual events and possibly jacking off to it. Why would this at all seem surprising? A male's sex drive would probably extend beyond what a woman is willing to accomodate... if anything, porn helps to provide a safe outlet for the extra sexual energy without having to hound the woman for sex or risk other behaviors that could destroy the relationship.

Am I the only one seeing they are making a mountain out of a mole hill?

[Illusional]

it's not the porn that hurts, it's the fact he does it behind her back.

as for illusional, i feel sorry for ur gf if u have that much care for her.

it's more like an understanding. i could care less if she looked at male porn or whatevers. everyone has desires, it's only human nature. it's no different than checking out someone at the mall. however, when you act upon these desires, then it crosses the line.

raverboy

[GPLOC]

All guys do it, at some time or another,and if they dont, theyre liars. dont worry its not about him wanting something better or being wierd, he probably just feels comfortable enough to show you that he is doing it thats all ... besides... would you be more worried if he tried to hide it from you?

[raptor5618]

Sounds kind of normal to me. A few times a week when you are having sex 4 times a week is not a problem. If he is choosing that over you that is a problem.

Also if cool laid back means you get excited doing what ever he desires then you need to remind him of that. Guys need time to themselves and sometime it just feels good to take care of yourself. As long as it does not replace you but is in addition to you stop stressing or knock on the door and say you want some of what he is giving out.

[abetterus]

Completely normal...and as Gigabitch said...If your free spirited, why is it an issue, as long as he doesn't confuse porn with real life...

[ecojeanne]

i'm watching porn at least twice a day, i used to watch it more, i've actually cut it down coz i felt it was kinda getting a little out of control, but i'm so horny all the time, it must be that fcking biological clock people keep talkin about i dunno, whats wrong with that? men like porn big deal...it means nothing, i know i'd prefer to have a live man to ravage than watch porn, i'm sure men feel the same overall