Bitchy coworkers

[misombra]

i'm sure it will all boil over. just smile as they walk by.

[Gigabitch]

i'm sure it will all boil over. just smile as they walk by.

Yes, and imagine them creamed-corn wrestling, like in Striptease. Should give you some perspective.

[bluesummer]

Although I am friendly at work, I do not form actual friendships with anyone I work with... I think it helps to prevent me getting pulled into all the girl drama. I am there to do my job, not to be social. I think a lot of these problems arise form people not being able to separate the two.

There is SO much female drama at my work, and it comes from people being friends. I'm ok with being social outside of work, but I don't usually become close buddies with coworkers until I move on to another job.

There's two at my work in particular that piss everyone off because they sit in each other's offices all day, call each other constantly, and take off on lunch together. They also trash-talk people together. It's ridiculous. I don't say anything beyond 'hello' and talking business to them. That's it. No drama for me, thanks.

[Mish]

And there I thought only men play the "who has the biggest penis game". Seems women play it to.

I think the game they play is "Who can get the biggest penis"

[starbuck]

This...and clarify that you haven't been saying anything about her.

Anything I've said about her was in the context of the project we were working on. I wasn't shit-talking. Just giving opinions about her work to my boss. Believe me, AJ, these gals are being waaaaay oversensitive. I think the worst I said was that she just didn't write enough copy for the ad. But her friend acted like I was going around saying her copy was poop.

CB, the raptor analogy is dead-on and exactly describes my work environment. It makes me sad to see women treating each other like this. Things are finally equalling out in the workplace and women are oppressing each other now in a different way. I think the corporate culture breeds this kind of behavior, too. Especially lately when you can lose your job at the drop of a hat.

[Yggdrasil]

starbuck, whenever you start work, remind yourself of this line: it's nothing personal, it's business.

[starbuck]

starbuck, whenever you start work, remind yourself of this line: it's nothing personal, it's business.

This is usually the attitude I take. But I realized that lately I'm extra-sensitive to work drama since my boss at my last job was so abusive. I was really hoping I could ride out the summer with some easy, drama-free freelance.

Incidentally, I found out that the company wants to keep me on until the end of the year. So, go team me

[Yggdrasil]

Incidentally, I found out that the company wants to keep me on until the end of the year. So, go team me

Good for you. Congrats and such.

[misombra]

i'm so excited at the possibility of hanging with starb.

[vashti]

Things are finally equalling out in the workplace and women are oppressing each other now in a different way.

I have felt for a really long time that women are their own worst enemy. If they aren't the ones actually starting trouble, they are usually the ones who prolong it by making sure the other women involved have no way to save face.

[starbuck]

i'm so excited at the possibility of hanging with starb.

ME TOOOOOOOOO!

[starbuck]

the raptors lol.

I know...so funny. I read that part in CB's post aloud to my boyfriend and he laughed at it, too.

[IndiReloaded]

SB, I think you know I manage a large department.

Many (okay, most) of the conflict comes from bitchy women. When evaluating things like this, the most important thing for me is determining the motive of the individuals involved.

That said, your motive for your comment was for the company good. You were perfectly fine in your comment as well as your delivery. Others agreed with you. The problem was the person taking the criticism personally (not your problem).

I think your going for a friendly lunch is a good thing. However, in my experience this kind of thing rarely disappears on its own.

You need to have a private, frank conversation with your supervisor about what happened. Both the event, and the fallout that happened with this second employee afterward. Stay calm, state your concern (that you were trying to provide valuable feedback for the company good), and then let your supervisor handle it. He/she may do nothing for the time being. But be assured that she'll be watching. And the bitchy employee *always* comes out on the losing end of this game.

I've fired gals for this kind of thing. But it takes me a while to build their file to justify it. Meantime, stay cool. Whatever you do, DON'T respond to the attacks. Just alert your boss.

[IndiReloaded]

If they aren't the ones actually starting trouble, they are usually the ones who prolong it by making sure the other women involved have no way to save face.

This is sooo true. Women together form this mob mentality. One with a mildly legit concern & the other 25 clueless as to why they are actually upset.

[Mish]

Having said that, a lot of the girls at work remind me of raptors (those vicious dinosaurs). They often dress in a confident, sexually provocative way, they travel in packs and they just look like predators. They all wear these razor looking stilettos, that remind me of claws. When they walk through the foyer their heels all make this loud 'click, click, click,'. They sound and look uncommonly like a pack of raptors crossing the floor.

I find it interesting how masculine some women can be. I know one who's a guy in disguise. She's pretty, but never wears any make up, gets irritated when people comment on her looks, wears military style clothing, excels in any physical activity, does kick boxing and prefers to punch people to showing any signs of emotion. She has a nice figure, but you quickly forget about that and treat her as one of the guys. She's attracted to guys for some reason.