Is this over the line by my girlfriend?

[Gigabitch]

He's got more than one thread going.

[Lovestinks]

Wow from my previous experience with my ex-wife, those are huge redflags. I was just so naive and just gave the benefit of the doubt but **** that.. She is using you and it seems like you are aware of this but dont want to accept it.

Please be careful, i went through a very tough time with my ex-wife and i would not want anyone else to go through the same shit. Please look out for yourself.

[Lovestinks]

Oh yeah and my cheating exwife was definitely an attention whore as well so please lookout for yourself and family first before you do anything for her.. even better leave her now and just go through the coping process now to get over it.. Better now than 5 years down the line.

[ashwood85]

While she expects you to trust her, she is failing at respecting you. She is using you. When she allows you to pay for her shit and/or her families shit and you are getting nothing in return (such as respect and loyalty) Its pretty evident that she doesnt care about you as much as she desires the benefits of being with you.

As far as the cheating thing, If I had done what she did as far as the emails and chats and "sick with my phone off" my husband would lose it. He is a jealous man so maybe I am bit biased in the fact that, He would have been gone since the first incident.

[MVPlaya]

My girlfriend and I are in love and been together for over 9 months. We are both over 40 years old. She has this guy who is 52 years old who is married contacting her at least once every or twice every 2 weeks. She says he is just a friend and an old make out buddy from 9 months ago. She says he never was even a boyfriend and she never slept with him.

However, he calls, texts and emails her explicit content and states his intentions that he wants more sexually. He even states he would love to, "eat her wonderfully waxed pussy". Not sure how he knows that it's waxed, except that she is very open about things and would tell someone that. Plus, I've seen some of the steamy emails between them, she was very teasing to him. I tell her that he is not a friend, he is a potential stalker because she has not seen him in 8 months, supposedly.

My dilema is that she continues to contact him back and is friendly and flirty. I feel that she may want to do more with him or is holding on to him as a life line if we do not work out. She even contacts him late at night as well. I feel cheated on already. Please help, should I be concerned about this? What can I do, she refuses to talk anymore about it.

Yeah thats way over the line. You need to give her a choice, she either stops or the relationship is over.

Unless, of course, you'd rather be in a relationship where you constantly feel cheated on than be single.