Do you think this is weird?

[Charisma]

*I wish we could get an update on this*

Oh and to echo what most people have said, I REALLY think you should dump your boyfriend and spend less time with your sneaky cousin. Because it REALLY seems like you can't trust her or your boyfriend. At all. This is your future happiness at stake. Not family loyalties, not proof of not being crazy at innocent texts(which you know aren't so innocent when they are so frequent)

-wonders how many times people have to say it to you, and how many signs you need to realise what's most likely going on-

*****More stuff adding****

on another note. Your bf and cousin might be texting and stuff. But on phones they might be sending pictures. They could be having *dare I say it* phone sex. Just cos it's over the phone doesn't mean it doesn't count as cheating (I think you said something about they wouldn't have the time or opportunity to cheat, or something like that).

**oh and another thing**

And, I think if you decide to end it with your bf and tell him to move out and stuff, that you should show your mother this thread. Because if she can't understand how you feel about the situation, maybe she'll realise it when she reads everyone else's comments. She should be supporting you and giving you advice, not telling you it's nothing you should worry about.

Oh, and if your cousin has history of bf-stealing, promiscousity, or getting in between people (including your own past, and other family members), then that should be warning signs too.

[RdHrshyKss]

1) you haven't had a phone for awhile, and it definitely could be that he's just bored and wants to chat with someone. but then i would raise the point, why would he want to continue chatting with your cousin after you have already made it apparent that you feel uncomfortable with that? if it's pure boredom, he would have found someone else to text by now.

2) he is deleting text messages between him and her. either he is completely STUPID and is just deleting them because he doesn't want to hear you complain about it like another poster wrote, or he's a little less stupid and is deleting them because his texts with her are inappropriate and he doesn't want you seeing them. the way i see it, is if his conversations with her were as innocent as he claims them to be, he would most likely leave them on there for you to see, to prove that nothing bad is going on. he's deleting them so you can't see them, doesn't matter for what reason, it's dishonest.

3) your cousin is not behaving like a family member should behave. if she is as innocent as she is claiming to be, why would she continue accepting his texts and his phone calls after you already made it aware to her that you are uncomfortable with them talking so much? seems like she is just saying what she thinks you want to hear when you talk to her and is doing something completely different.

if your boyfriend really cared about you, he would be completely open with you and wouldn't want to continue doing something that would jeopardize your relationship. he continues to chat with her and gets defensive and calls you "crazy" because he knows what he is doing is wrong and thinks that he can continue to get away with it by guilt tripping you to "trust him". don't trust him, he is not trustworthy and neither is your cousin. you can tell him that, you can't trust him because he doesn't tell you what he talks about with her, because he deletes text messages with her so that you can't see them...he goes really far out of his way to hide things from you. if he was being honest he would have been upfront about everything from the very beginning.

your cousin sounds like someone who probably likes the attention. getting attention from a guy who is already in a relationship (especially with a family member who she might feel inclined to compete with) makes her feel good because he likes her over someone else. she is reciprocating the attention to keep it going. she doesn't give a shit about what this is going to do to your relationship with your boyfriend or with her. if i were you, i wouldn't bother continuing being friends with her, she isn't your friend, she's a backstabber and should not be trusted.

DO NOT move in with your bf. in a way, you are really lucky that you became aware of all this before you made that kind of commitment. he is living in your parents house. tell him that he needs to leave if he can't respect you and understand that talking to another female MORE than he talks to you is completely unacceptable, especially if he can't show you what they are talking about. if he is so selfish, stubborn and stupid to not understand this, then he can just move elsewhere and find some dumb broad who will tolerate that shit. take control of this now. if he is serious about being with you, then he needs to start acting like it. if he can't do that, then good riddance...

[Charisma]

*still waiting on a update*

ahh I feel silly for being so curious about this topic! but still.....updates please!