husband sneaks to look at porn to much.

[VincenzoG91]

After you find a guy who doesn't masturbate, the two of you can fly away on totally cool magical unicorns. Good luck with that.

[Gigabitch]

This reminds me of a story about my brother's ex wife. He was looking through pics on his computer and she was across the room. She looked over and saw a pic of a woman dressed pretty scantily, posing like a pinup girl and asked, with venom dripping in her voice, "Who is THAT slut?"

He answered, "It's you. Five years ago."

Baaaahahahahaaa!

She was always so threatened by other women. He ended up leaving her because she was awful, not for someone else.

[mrtdg82]

Ok maybe 99% of men watch porn maybe a slight exageration however i think you'll find it isnt far off the mark.

[girl68]

jealous of dirty skanky sluts who want everyone watching them have sex. no, that is by far not whats going on. i wish not to ever have a dirty lifestyle like those std sluts in those porno movies. theirs nothing to be jealous of. who in their right mind would want to do that for a living? also i'm a good looking woman and by far a lot better looking then many of those gross skanks in those porns. the whole debate on men with porn addictions is that those who watch that crap are going to condone it and say theirs nothing wrong with it and those who live a clean cut lifestyle like me will not condone it and will not approve of it. i am a decent person who lives a VERY clean cut lifestyle. i'm not with a a man like that and thats why its a waste of time for me to be involved with someone like that. theirs no way 99% of men are porn watchers. i 'm sure their are some decent, good men out there.

WOW, you're so incredibly judgemental. It's your way or no way right? Damn, I'd want a release too!

[RdHrshyKss]

it's obvious that her attitude about it is what is leading this guy to watching it. she is obviously extremely uptight sexually and the guy can only find some escape from HER world by looking at porn. the way she is being so defensive tells me that maybe he goes on those dating sites just so that he could fantasize about being with someone else. as far as this forum goes, you are going to get a lot of open-minded people who will give you their own outlook on things. the whole point of this forum is to get an outside perspective, some people might agree and others won't. you are supposed to take in all of this information and come to a better understanding of the situation. if you are just looking for a bunch of people to reaffirm your close-minded opinion then you'd probably be better off going to one of those radical feminist forums, you'll get the answer you are looking for there...

[Charisma]

I once spoke to a guy from America, while on a chatroom. He was a pretty devout christian (once or twice he tried to *convert* me from believing in astrology and stuff, just because I didn't define myself as having a specific religion).

Anyways, he used to flirt and talk about cyber and stuff. There was a break I had from the internet while I was working, but when I came back to it (when I wasn't working), it turns out he had dated a girl, and then got engaged, and then was married(in the space of say 1-3 years).

When we spoke again on msn, he tried bringing up all the cyber stuff we used to talk about before. It kind of disgusted me, and amazed me, that he was a married man still coming online for sexual gratification. I blocked him after he started acting like that.

But seriously, who gets married and doesn't fufill the sexual side of the relationship?? That's just asked for them to sit on the internet all day getting off from other people/porn/whatever.

[4dvz]

I didn`t read any more posts in this thread besides the original post because I just felt urge to comment on it:

That is 100% normal and there is nothing creepy about it. I`m a guy, I`m in a long-term relationship, I watch porn and masturbate like 2 times/day on average. I even do it when my girlfriend is sleeping on the counch next to my computer, of course my intention is not to get caught but it wouldn`t bother me that much even if I did.
We have sex around 2-3 times/week normally, and that is just NOT enough at all and I would explode and lose my mind if I couldn`t watch porn and masturbate. My girlfriend knows this and accepts it and understands that she has no right to even make me feel bad about it, because it`s just not right to even try blocking away someone`s sexuality.
So unless you can honestly say that you happily give your man sex 100% everytime he desires it, and your man knows this, there is nothing wrong about he watching porn and masturbating.

[4dvz]

I mean, relationship is definitely not supposed to limit a person`s sexual activities altough it limits them to one person only, besides your own hand.

[hello1]

Everyone jumping on the porn issue but you caught him looking on dating sites. This is an much bigger concern. If I was you I would have a serious think about this relationship.

[RdHrshyKss]

Everyone jumping on the porn issue but you caught him looking on dating sites. This is an much bigger concern. If I was you I would have a serious think about this relationship.

it depends on what dating sites he's looking at? a different form of porn where he can look at girls that are "from his area" even though they really aren't? or regular dating sites where people go out and progressively look for women to date. they are very different. craigslist is pretty funny in my opinion. most of the stuff on there is absolutely hilarious, my bf sends me links to stuff from there all the time. you'd have to be a moron to think any of that crap is real.

[4dvz]

But dating and porn sites often have so many links to each other, and besides the fact that she was on a dating site doesn`t represent any evidence of her planning to cheat. Seriously, I have browsed through all that same material online, dating sites and such and I would never cheat on my girl. It`s not the same as if she would go to a bordel to look around.
On internet it`s so safe to look for everything you shouldn`t be taking it too seriously. If a person close to you would be caught looking at a site that has instructions for making a bomb by you, would you think he/she is a potential terrorist? I think not..

[xxazurexx]

Well I'd be looking at bombs and because I'm interested in bombs/or in making one ....lol

Wouldn't feel a need to visit it otherwise.

[workoutgirl1970]

Nothing wrong with it unless it becomes excessive or an obsession. I like it too and I am a pervert and not afraid to admit it and a woman! I do watch it occasionally but the thing that you have to be careful with is that those sites have viruses so him being addicted isn't the main problem, crashing your computer could happen too. Bring that up, that might be an incentive to curb it or if you can't beat him, join him. Two freaks are better than one.

[4dvz]

Well the bomb example was a bit extreme but still true because I remember curiosity googling for that kind of stuff without any real interests towards the subject. =D And of course I can`t possibly know what kind of sites people visit, but I have visited some really sick sites and if somebody would draw up a conclusion from me, using my all-time internet history (if such would exist), they would propably think that I`m plain sick,twisted,perverted(<-I am),hostile,insane and threat to all mankind. BUT no, I`m a totally normal person. That`s what I was trying to point out with an example other than dating site, and besides you can get pop-upped to dating site really easy from going to a porn site. And you can even start browsing a dating site without ever intending to look for a date there. Don`t peek into your companions usage of internet.. it`s a bad idea in general, besides violating your companions privacy, you can get loads of futile concern.

[xxazurexx]

^^Like I said earlier, if a partner is viewing dating sites, hookup, sex with no strings sites, then you don't just turn a blind eye, ignore it and hope that he won't get tempted. For every man that won't be tempted, there is a man who will and we can't predict who might get tempted and who won't. Internet affairs happen and all the time and it doesn't just happen to other people, one day it could be YOU. Those who blindly trust, are fools unto themselves and are the most prone, to being cheated on...

And I know because I used to just blindly trust and think he would never cheat on me. He was shagging all over the country!!....

I reckon if you catch them looking, don't fuss or make a big deal.....just keep your eyes and ears wide open and be aware of the danger.
AWARENESS is the first step to prevention.