Romantic or Platonic ... a survey. : )

[Neuro]

Eventually I'll tell him and ask all the questions I have for him.

But I will have to wait until the next time I see him, which may not be for a while. ...people are strange.

[Neuro]

It has been four months, and I am still confused about this guy. Ever since we went to the show together, we have watched a movie together one night which was followed by drinks with his friends. The next day we spent going to Ikea, which was followed by tea at his place... when he gave me a bunch of stuff... a painting, a clock, cookies, a CD. Then he wanted to go out again that same night, which I didn't do. The following week I am one of the first people he called when he found out some bad news. Two days after that we went to a movie... three days after that we went for brunch and talked past the restaurant's closing time. Four days after that he invited me to hang out with him and his friend. That night we went to meet up with some of my friends at a bar... when he insisted to sit next to me after a guy had hit on me. We got home at 1am. The following day he texts to see if I will come out again that night, which I do. Here's where confusion sets in. One of his friends hit on me all night, and he didn't do anything about it... He let his friend hit on me all evening and didn't even try to get in the way. He also told me that he might be moving across the country for a job. After I was "excited" about it, he says that he is unsure and that he hopes to stay here....

What is with him? : ) Are we really only platonic... I keep getting hugs and high-fives... and nothing beyond that aside from a bunch of mixed messages. HELP!!

[thisguy350]

I just caught up with the previous posts and whatnot. Did you sit down and talk to him yet? I know you're unsure of his feelings but honestly, the only way you'll ever find out is if you sit him down and ask him if he likes you as more than just a friend. That's all you have to say. I have a feeling that you haven't talked to him about this yet because you think you might lose the friendship and things will be awkward if he doesn't like you in that way. This is a legitimate concern, but I can tell you from experience that I have still been friends with girls after asking them out and getting rejected. You don't have to make yourself vulnerable, just ask him straight up if he likes you as more than just a friend. Trust me, you'll feel a lot better once you find out for sure and you can finally stop guessing and either move on, or date him.

[Neuro]

Sure - I know I have to eventually sit down and talk to him about all this. But in the meantime ... how would YOU qualify his behavior...??? I know I need to ask him, but what would YOU think if you were in my position. And as guys... would you behave like this with a female friend you are not interested in??? Thankyouthankyouthankyou!!!!