Sex?

**Gratedwasabi** · 20-12-10, 08:17 AM

Gaga, next time that happens tell him to grow a pair and **** you or get out so you can handle it yourself. Seriously. If he tries to talk about it just say "either GET IN or GET OUT." He's probably just being insecure and wimpy so take control. Shove him down on the bed, pull off his pants, and climb on top if you have to.

**GagaRoma** · 20-12-10, 10:53 AM

Originally Posted by Boisdevie

How old is your BF? I ask the question because he sounds like a complete idiot. You want to make love with him (perfectly reasonably) and he's dry humping you? Sounds like he has a real problem. If he wanted you, like really wanted you then you would be making love right now.

He's a year younger than I am. He's always sweet otherwise but I think his maturity level is playing a critical role in this >.<

**Boisdevie** · 20-12-10, 01:43 PM

Maturity level? Jeez, guys from the ae of 13 onwards would **** anything that moves - you're basically offering yourself to him and he won't go for it- is he mad?

**ellietwo** · 20-12-10, 09:00 PM

I do get that he fears that sex might change your relationship..
Maybe he needs some assurance or convincing that you are indeed serious about it?

the dry-humping? totally repulsive imo ...

**GagaRoma** · 21-12-10, 04:00 AM

It's odd because it seems like he wants to and like he would be ready.
Maybe he's just anxious about it all. But I've always been serious with him, even though at times it's seemed like he's needed reassurance of how I feel about him. He says "I love you" a lot, then sometimes when I say it in return he will say "I know you do baby" as if he was checking how I felt or something. I know he's serious about the relationship too. I kind if don't get how I'm basically like "Hey! Here I am!" and he is all "Nah, I want to wait". I know he wouldn't want to wait until marriage, so it's not like he's saving it for that. I think he could just be nervous.

**Gratedwasabi** · 21-12-10, 04:29 AM

Originally Posted by GagaRoma

It's odd because it seems like he wants to and like he would be ready.
Maybe he's just anxious about it all. But I've always been serious with him, even though at times it's seemed like he's needed reassurance of how I feel about him. He says "I love you" a lot, then sometimes when I say it in return he will say "I know you do baby" as if he was checking how I felt or something. I know he's serious about the relationship too. I kind if don't get how I'm basically like "Hey! Here I am!" and he is all "Nah, I want to wait". I know he wouldn't want to wait until marriage, so it's not like he's saving it for that. I think he could just be nervous.

He sounds immature. I dunno what else we can tell you. Something is weird there. He SHOULD be jumping all over you (and not to dry hump you, what the ****?) I don't care how anxious/nervous he is, as a guy those hormones kick in when you start making out and any nerves or anxiety is gone. Or should be. Maybe he's gay. Immature and gay.

**hello1** · 21-12-10, 06:40 AM

I read the whole thread. Your boyfriend sounds gay too me. What guy, scratch that! what adult person who is in a relationship for 7 months, suppoesdly attracted to each other not want to have sex? it makes no sense. Your boyfriend is a big HOMO. Do not waste your time

**GagaRoma** · 21-12-10, 06:43 AM

He has no problem touching me though, and when we are alone he usually does have his hands all over me.
He says how I'm beautiful all the time so it's not like there's a lack of attraction. I can always tell he gets into it and enjoys when we kiss or touch because he does get hard.
The first time he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him he said how he had a condom, but how it was a couple years old and I told him how I wasn't sure if it would still be useful after that long. Then after I said that he suggested anal but I honestly wasn't too fond of the idea. So maybe he's waiting til he's more prepared?

**Gratedwasabi** · 21-12-10, 07:05 AM

Originally Posted by GagaRoma

He has no problem touching me though, and when we are alone he usually does have his hands all over me.
He says how I'm beautiful all the time so it's not like there's a lack of attraction. I can always tell he gets into it and enjoys when we kiss or touch because he does get hard.
The first time he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him he said how he had a condom, but how it was a couple years old and I told him how I wasn't sure if it would still be useful after that long. Then after I said that he suggested anal but I honestly wasn't too fond of the idea. So maybe he's waiting til he's more prepared?

He's gay. Seriously, you might want to start considering this. He wasn't sure if his condom was too old so how about anal? You do realize that young, confused gay men will mess around with women because it's what they think they're supposed to do and then try for anal because it's more what they want, right?

If he was straight he A) wouldn't have mentioned it was a couple years old or B) noted that the drugstore was 10 minutes away and he'd be back in 21 minutes. This is not normal behavior. Suggesting anal before you've had normal sex is like running a marathon before you've gone jogging. Anal is serious business, despite what the public perception seems to be right now. Anal IS something to be scared of.

And as for "I know he enjoys it because he gets hard." Hun. I get hard if a light breeze hits me right. It's not exactly a surefire indicator of anything.

**GagaRoma** · 21-12-10, 07:17 AM

He said he had a condom and he explained how he got it in like 9th grade, I don't know why he felt the need to elaborate on how and when he got it but I was the one that brought up how what if it was cheap etc.
He suggested anal because he doesn't want to get me pregnant. But I thought it'd be way too awkward and I know I wouldn't enjoy it.
I'm kind of getting impatient about it all the more I think about it. Because it's confusing how it's all working out. 7 months into the relationship he finally brings up sex and then suddenly says "I think we should think about this more" it's killing me!

**Gratedwasabi** · 21-12-10, 07:23 AM

Originally Posted by GagaRoma

He said he had a condom and he explained how he got it in like 9th grade, I don't know why he felt the need to elaborate on how and when he got it but I was the one that brought up how what if it was cheap etc.
He suggested anal because he doesn't want to get me pregnant. But I thought it'd be way too awkward and I know I wouldn't enjoy it.
I'm kind of getting impatient about it all the more I think about it. Because it's confusing how it's all working out. 7 months into the relationship he finally brings up sex and then suddenly says "I think we should think about this more" it's killing me!

I don't know, Gaga, I've got a bad feeling about all of this. He suggested anal? What kind of messed up virgin guy suggests ANAL instead of going to get a condom? It's not normal at all. Maybe he's got some obsession with it or anything but it's still bizarre.

I don't know what he wants to think about. And as has been mentioned, the dry humping thing is really ****ing weird. I'm still leaning towards him being gay. His actions (confused, uncertain, etc) don't make him sound like a normal hormone-raged teenager.

You should evaluate if someone of his maturity level is really whom you want to have your first time with. At best it sounds like he's just interested in getting his own pleasure and is clueless about sex.

**GagaRoma** · 21-12-10, 09:56 AM

*Could it be a matter of him just being respectful though? He's told me before how he'd really want to know a girl before ever having sex with them and especially with his virginity since he values it and sees it as something to not just "throw away". Aside from that he's said to me before he's completely clueless about sex. I mean I can recall months ago him seriously asking me where a penis would go, and I'm not even kidding, and then how he said how he was never taught sex education in his health classes and who knows if his parents ever talked to him about it, I would hope they did at one point.

**Gratedwasabi** · 21-12-10, 10:11 AM

Originally Posted by GagaRoma

*Could it be a matter of him just being respectful though? He's told me before how he'd really want to know a girl before ever having sex with them and especially with his virginity since he values it and sees it as something to not just "throw away". Aside from that he's said to me before he's completely clueless about sex. I mean I can recall months ago him seriously asking me where a penis would go, and I'm not even kidding, and then how he said how he was never taught sex education in his health classes and who knows if his parents ever talked to him about it, I would hope they did at one point.

Respectful? No. 7 months is a long, LONG time for a guy.

He.. asked you.. where.. a.. penis.. would.. go...? Jesus. Okay. Maybe he's not gay, just completely clueless. I.. mean.. come on. Has he never watched porn? Next time he's over make him watch porn with you and if he looks terrified, that's probably his deal (ie scared and clueless.) If he seems cool with it, freaking jump him.

Look. He's a guy. He's not going to regret losing his virginity to you. I think you might need to take the reins on this one.

(My parents never talked to me about sex. I didn't have sex education in school. My friends knew nothing about sex. By 13 I had a perfect idea of what goes on and that was before porn was as freakishly available as it is today.)

**red_sparrow** · 21-12-10, 10:56 AM

Jesus Christ.

7 months. Here's my sincere advice to you: GO AT EACH OTHER LIKE ANIMALS.

**red_sparrow** · 21-12-10, 10:58 AM

christ.

anal is really painful. sometimes a guy will accidentally put it in the wrong hole (i mean 'accidentally' very loosely); it hurts like a bitch.
and i agree.. most guys have an obsession with the arshole because it is tighter than a pussy. however, a virgin should be pretty tight.
on that note, these two sound like babies. how old are y'all, really? you guys better not be over 18 or I'm going to shit myself laughing.

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