The 6th sense

[ashley89]

WHAT did she do? What did he do? WHY didn't you confront them OR why didn't you be the better man, and pick her up and carry her in front of your best friend? Why sit there
like a baby booboo feeling butthurt with passive aggression??? Women hate this shit!

you're killing me here! I think I'm gonna incorporate "butthurt" into my daily conversation now

[SelflessnHumble]

you're killing me here! I think I'm gonna incorporate "butthurt" into my daily conversation now

Glad to see you're doing fine Ashley! Keep it up Tiger!

[Take2]

I read a poem in college called "Senor Dildo." I kid you not, it was written in the 1700s, during the reign of Charles II. Dildos were made of glass covered in leather back then, which sounds a little risky to me! Anyway, women had them in the 1950s. I am certain US women had them in the 1940s when all the men were off at war!

In 1974, I discovered a dildo in a box of things my grandmother was holding for some woman. My mother certainly recognized it and made it disapear from my sight. Duh, the 1970s were a sexual revolution, man!

And now, in 2011, I don't have a dildo and never have. I know women who do and women who don't. I am not sure why it even matters to you. What offense is a woman, even a wife, commiting against you by having a dildo?

[smackie9]

++++Women are horny, in general...Women have dildos, vibrators and a slew of sex toys you may not be aware of.
Of course the vagina stretches to accommodate bigger nouns to be inserted...I think you should learn how to use
your intuition but this is solely dependent on your experience, not by reading or hearing stories...Research can be a great tool.++++

She has a toy but if that were the cause of this, she would have thrown that out there as a reason.

That all women now days have toys...this is one of the Disney Fantasy Land issues that I was talking about. Until I got divorced, I had NO CLUE that every woman in the US over the age of 20 has at least one dildo. I never saw one with my ex-wofe, but then again, we never even talked. It was a miserable marriage.

This is the sort of thing I've learned since the divorce. Honestly, growing up in the 70's as a kid, I'm certain few women had dildos. And for sure, back in the 50's, less than one generation ago, I guarantee next to ZERO women had dildos. This is an example of the eye-opening Disney Fantasy stuff I was talking about. Things I've learned about women in the last four years, that, in general, make me less trusting of all women.

LOL sorry but there is nothing new under the sun. Pornography, sex toys, etc have been around since ancient times. You have been walking around with a closed mind for way too long. You are just recovering from the shock absorbing some knowledge about human nature and the human race itself. You need to start doing some reading and educate yourself more openly.

[twinrexes]

What you call sixth sense I call paranoia. But really, I think you two deserve each other. You seem to derive some kind of sick pleasure from wallowing in all of this sixth sense, paranoid, jealous, negativity. You know what they say, "what we want also wants us" and if you're looking for reasons to believe she's a lying, cheating, whore you're going to find them. If you live in a world where you believe everyone cheats, guess what you're going to attract?

But why she puts up with all of your accusations and even goes to the doctor when you tell her she's "stretched out" is beyond me. I'd have kicked you out long before that. I'm guessing it's the money?

[MerryH]

Things I've learned about women in the last four years, that, in general, make me less trusting of all women.

Forget everything you think you've learned about women. No women are exactly the same. You can't paint them all with the same brush. Don't form conclusions from your bogus self-help books, your idiot friends, random internet websites, prior experiences, none of it. View every individual objectively, they deserve that. It's great that you've been more observant and open-minded since your divorce, but this attitude that women are not to be trusted just closes your mind right back up. You still have a lot to learn and you still have to work on yourself, because you have some pretty big issues. I'm really glad that you're considering seeing a therapist. I hope you follow through on that and keep us updated.

I wish I could hate you for your really misguided views, but I can't. You do seem to recognize there are things you need to change. I hope you do. Life is a lot nicer when you're not suspicious that everyone is out to get you.

[I'mGoingCrazy]

Being with her was the best relationship I've ever had in my life, aside from the paranoia / 6th sense.

I called a therapist yesterday and left a message on the machine. I found that just typing out my suspicions about the three-way made me feel a little better. I've been keeping this all bottled up inside and I think talking about this someone face to face might help.

[SelflessnHumble]

I read a poem in college called "Senor Dildo." I kid you not, it was written in the 1700s, during the reign of Charles II. Dildos were made of glass covered in leather back then, which sounds a little risky to me! Anyway, women had them in the 1950s. I am certain US women had them in the 1940s when all the men were off at war!

In 1974, I discovered a dildo in a box of things my grandmother was holding for some woman. My mother certainly recognized it and made it disapear from my sight. Duh, the 1970s were a sexual revolution, man!

And now, in 2011, I don't have a dildo and never have. I know women who do and women who don't. I am not sure why it even matters to you. What offense is a woman, even a wife, commiting against you by having a dildo?

To him it's Disneyland Fantasy stuff.
And because since he grew up in the 70s this somehow means women who use dildos are untrustworthy!

[SelflessnHumble]

What you call sixth sense I call paranoia. But really, I think you two deserve each other. You seem to derive some kind of sick pleasure from wallowing in all of this sixth sense, paranoid, jealous, negativity. You know what they say, "what we want also wants us" and if you're looking for reasons to believe she's a lying, cheating, whore you're going to find them. If you live in a world where you believe everyone cheats, guess what you're going to attract?

But why she puts up with all of your accusations and even goes to the doctor when you tell her she's "stretched out" is beyond me. I'd have kicked you out long before that. I'm guessing it's the money?

Are you seriously trying to tell me that a woman's vagina cannot be stretched out by rigorous sexual activity?
If not you can call my ex (if she weren't so psycho) after I was done with her (and she was very tight-Filipina) you could have used her VG as a bungie chord and jump into an Abyss!

Hello, hello. hello....
Echo, Echo, Echo....

Yeah, like that.

[SelflessnHumble]

Being with her was the best relationship I've ever had in my life, aside from the paranoia / 6th sense.

I called a therapist yesterday and left a message on the machine. I found that just typing out my suspicions about the three-way made me feel a little better. I've been keeping this all bottled up inside and I think talking about this someone face to face might help.

Never internalize your feelings! Ever.
Best to get them out. Then when you're with girlfriend #5 and she too thinks you are paranoid: odds are your thoughts are WAYYYYY off the radar.

[twinrexes]

Are you seriously trying to tell me that a woman's vagina cannot be stretched out by rigorous sexual activity?
If not you can call my ex (if she weren't so psycho) after I was done with her (and she was very tight-Filipina) you could have used her VG as a bungie chord and jump into an Abyss!

Hello, hello. hello....
Echo, Echo, Echo....

Yeah, like that.

NO, I'm trying to tell you that if a boyfriend kept acting as though I was cheating on him, I wouldn't be running off to doctor's appointments to ease his mind. I'd be finding a new guy who trusts me.

[SelflessnHumble]

NO, I'm trying to tell you that if a boyfriend kept acting as though I was cheating on him, I wouldn't be running off to doctor's appointments to ease his mind. I'd be finding a new guy who trusts me.

Point taken, however I think you missed the bulk of the issue here (I could be wrong though)
I mean the story goes: she fools around with his best friend in front of him: this has happened to me and it's not cool...
Since I was too chicken shit (as was the OP) to confront both the best friend and the girlfriend: I had no place to bring it up
or dwell on it because I never addressed it: I also did what the OP had done: dump her ass not because I wanted to: just to
show her who's boss-which is also just as wrong.

Her stories didn't match up, but her accounts of the bartender, and her acting like HE gave her that jeweled wine preserver
tells me she goofed and revealed something she wasn't willing to tell him: she never addressed the issue and he never addressed it.
It was in his mind, see? Just like the best friend getting too close, the all but admission of his BF asking for forgiveness of doing "something"
YET the OP didn't confront this either...It's been locked in his mind: posted here...Even the alleged 3-some, and the fan blowing on full blast
did seem odd, since she always tells him to turn HIS fan off when she is there! -He too allowed this to go on -unaddressed-

He did finally address one huge issue: the stretched vag (if I'm correctly reading what he wrote since she did go to the doctor)
and while it does unfortunately sound pretty messed up for him to do that...IT IS possible she had rigorous sexual activity while they were together (not paranoia)

^^^Big difference. If seems you think if he thinks one thing he feels that is considered paranoia : then he must be 100% paranoid: this doesn't fly.

Edit: I forgot to add: The fact she went to the doctors about her VG's condition (to me is a lie)
because she told him (if I remember correctly) that the doctor said it was due to constipation -an unrelated issue- (A LIE)

[ashley89]

I still don't get how she thought being constipated would explain her vag stretching out

[SelflessnHumble]

I still don't get how she thought being constipated would explain her vag stretching out

K, I will try to explain:
Let's say a guy cheats on you...

He gets with your close friend and denies it when you ask (not yell or fight or scream)
He's got several hickies, smells like "sex" and has that "just been phucked" look all over him...

You *know* something isn't right and all the signs are there, but no proof: no evidence...
He unknowingly takes off his long sleeve turtle neck (he decided to wear in 110 degree weather) and you see the hickies!!!! #*(*@_*_@)@*_@*#_

He doesn't know you know.
So what do people do: that conceal their actions/transgressions: they LIE.
So you ask him what he did today, and he omits him getting hickies and cheating...

THIS ^^^ is the nature of someone who cannot admit truth, even when they reveal it.

[SelflessnHumble]

I still don't get how she thought being constipated would explain her vag stretching out

Because she got a 2nd opinion from Dr. Feelgood!!!!