I need to make it until June

[Horseyguy]

Oh man the what if's will kill you. Just set a date of when you will see her again and then forget it until then.

No point churning it all over every day until then, there is nothing you can do about it anyway other than torment yourself.

Between now and then just focus on you, get your heath under control, focus on eating and sleeping and keeping fit and then when you meet up, all your what if's will get answered.

If it's meant to happen it will, if it isn't it wont.

[DarkHelmet82]

yeah its just the waiting to ask but good point HG.. thanks

[DarkHelmet82]

today is the hardest day yet... how do i stop my mind from just imagining the worst... maybe i should reread teh four agreements....facebook is so evil.. she wrote "if only things were as we wanted and not as they are." im now having second thoughts if i should even try to make contact at all...

****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i just want to be able to move on...

[Petit Papillon]

I bet my 10 fingers,she didn't think of you when she wrote that fb status . You're getting paranoid. It's unhealthy.

[DarkHelmet82]

yeah im pretty sure it was in regard to her ex.. pretty much saying " i wanted to marry you but now we cant because your a weirdo who has gay porn on your pc.". but it may not be... could mean anything.. i just wanna move on... i really do

[Petit Papillon]

Do you want to know the first step that you have to do to actually start to move on?

[DarkHelmet82]

yeah i do...

[Horseyguy]

What's stopping you from moving on DH? Really??

There is nothing stopping you moving on now. If you meet up with her again later, that's cool and maybe you can work it out, that's even better.

But in the mean time just take it that it's over and put it behind you. If you meet up with her now you are in such a state you will proberbly end up blowing it anyway. Or if she rejects you you'll end up in a worse state.

Get it together and try get to the stage where it doesn't matter. That way if you get back it's a bonus and if you don't it's not a big deal.

You are investing way too much emotionally on what might be.

[Petit Papillon]

Delete her from your phone, messengers and last but not least, facebook. First number you'll delete will hurt, but afteer you won't be able to stop. Also old emails and sms . That's wanting to move on , and not only thinking that you want to move on...

[DarkHelmet82]

i have issues with rejection... probably a deep rooted problem developed since childhood... thetes NO reason i should be upset or sad... yet i am... i dont like being like this

[Petit Papillon]

So look for a professional help. You see yourself,that you have issues. Therapies help solve such problems. and yes, it's not normal that you attach to women so quick. It might be partially a reason why they leave.

[flynhayn]

I've been going through the exact same thing man... except its been almost 2 months of no contact. Long story short, we had a very good and close relationship but she backed out last minute most likely out of fear, deciding to focus on her career instead. Anyway, she deleted me off of facebook (saving me the trouble), and it really does help not being able to see her acting normal without me. A week later, I sent a her a long and heartfelt text message saying that i'm still here for her if she ever needs anything, then deleted her number off of my phone. Never heard back from her, and I have no idea what she's been up to for the last 2 months. Yes the "what ifs" are absolute torture, but any reminders of her will only prolong dealing with it. I still think about her all day every day but its slowly getting easier. Looks like time still has its healing power, just takes a while to kick in.

[RB7]

Just send her a letter by post dont call her or text her, a personally written letter is best and its adorable as well.

But you wont be telling her that you want to meet up, no no no, she has to be the one to initiate that. All you do is tell her in that letter that it was right for you guys to go your separate ways and that you both needed this. leave it at that and dont try to contact her. If you do this and try to live your life as best as you can, dont be surprised if you see a message from her ir recieve a phone call from her!

[DarkHelmet82]

I can do this!! 10 more days!

[JadenMia]

I can do this!! 10 more days!

Seriously, i dont know why you are doing this to yourself

She is not going to have any sort of answer for you on this day.. She is not going to want you back.. I dont understand what you are waiting for..