Ignore what your boy/girlfriend says. Instead, watch what they do and how they treat you. Their actions will show the truth over the long term.
The best indicator of a good wo/man, is how they treat their enemies, or how they act under stress. Can they keep it together when they are under stress, and not take their stress out on the person they love? That's a good sign.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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