Originally Posted by
Maple1714
Backup - when you participate in any activity, knowing it could cause emotional pain to another, you are at fault. Period.
Originally Posted by
BackUpOrGetStng
Agree to disagree.
Actually, I happen to agree with Stung (sorry Maple). Tho probably for different reasons. Sometimes, causing pain to another is necessary and even kind, in the longterm. I'd probably modify your statement to say "knowing the overall outcome will be to hurt, and not help, another".
Originally Posted by
BackUpOrGetStng
As for 'preying' on the vulnerable, they've pursued me in all cases and they've all been 4 or 5 years older than me. It's hilarious that all of a sudden cheaters are the weak, vulnerable prey. Please.
Ha, I wondered how you would respond to that. Well, your moral 'code' seems to be an extreme form of individual responsibility. I happen to agree with you in principle. The problem I think you have is consistency in practice. Is cheating wrong, or not? If you are cheated on by your partner, is it wrong for them to do it?
If not, then I'd say your moral 'code' is consistent (if not one I agree with). Carry on. But if yes, then when you *knowingly* enable someone to cheat you are perpetuating this wrong. You may not be responsible for being a cheater, but you are responsible for making the choice to increase the wrongness of an act when you could have chosen the 'right' one.
I'm reminded of a sad case about a girl who was raped by a group of guys at a party. Several more people watched, but did nothing. While one could say those bystanders didn't do wrong b/c they didn't rape the poor girl, they certainly took part by watching and *choosing* not to help her. Did they do wrong? I think so.
So, IMO, your 'personal responsibility' code is half-assed. Its nothing more than a weak form of selfishness. There's nothing greater in your code than 'I'm gonna get mine' b/c it in no way extends to helping anyone else.
Take that and smoke it, Stung.
Last edited by IndiReloaded; 28-08-12 at 11:52 PM.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
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