need advice! help! im pregnant, don't know what to do

[smackie9]

It doesn't matter. Yes this can very well happen, so be it. But at least she will be in a relationship knowing her bf is a cheater and her decision to stay with one is at her will. A simple msg on FB is enough and shouldnt become a huge ordeal for the op. It will just open up a can of beans between the gf and the douche bag bf so she isn't living a life of deception. If she decides to marry him and have his kids after this, fine. But at least it's better than getting married, having kids only to find out her husbands infidelity afterwards. Good karma will come back to you.

Most ppl would want to know if their spouse is cheating. Cheating can result to so many things like life threatening std's. If we can prevent something like this to happen, then it's a good thing instead of turn a blind eye and say "it's not my business". If u saw a man looking at kiddie porn even if it ain't your business, would u not report it?

Looking at kiddie porn is a criminal offense...infidelity is not...apples to oranges.

[smackie9]

I was a witness to my brother's philandering when he was living with me, in fact I have been a witness to co-workers and close friends cheating....I kept my mouth shut. But I guess that's just me.

[bcgirl]

I was a cheater in my past relationship. I deceived many guys to think I was single when in fact I had a bf. I deceived my bf to think I was faithful when I wasn't. I do believe that if those guys knew I had a bf, they wouldn't have invested the time they did to introduce me to their folks, spend their hard earned money on gifts etc. etc.
with cheating the cheater takes and takes. I took advantage of all those nice things without caring about the feelings that were involved. I can say that if someone sent a pic to my ex out of the blue one day of my cheating, that would have totally fu(ked my whole game and things would have been a lot different. Nothing happened and my cover was never blown. I ended up deceiving without a trace. In the end of it, I took up ppl's valuable time when they could have been looking for a real gf, I took their gifts when they could have been spending on someone else or themselves, I took "hope" most of all when they could have been investing in hope elsewhere with better results.

In some countries adultery is against the law. The bible says so too

[smackie9]

Paul says in the Bible, "Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. In the bible says that revenge (which this is) is a sin.

[im depressed]

on the contrary, he doesnt want me to quit off pregnancy... he said that he will support all d financial matters and likewise time when i needed him with regards to my pregnancy... now thats the case he wanted to be...still secret.
if i terminated this without him knowing it, of course from time to time he wl check on d development of my pregnancy coz he started to support with regards to my meds and the check ups...it's positive that he will blame me for that... so in the end its me who is the bad one.

[bcgirl]

So the big reason why you want to keep this baby is because the bf does? I am getting that sense

[im depressed]

Yes you were cheated, but you stayed with him and so will his GF.
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smackie9,
yes, my mistake is when i learned that he cheated me, i did not end the relationship bec i dont have the strength to do it... at that time that i dont want to lose him... its my fault also that we were careless thats why it happened.

[im depressed]

not only that.... i myself cant think of an abortion...

[smackie9]

on the contrary, he doesnt want me to quit off pregnancy... he said that he will support all d financial matters and likewise time when i needed him with regards to my pregnancy... now thats the case he wanted to be...still secret.
if i terminated this without him knowing it, of course from time to time he wl check on d development of my pregnancy coz he started to support with regards to my meds and the check ups...it's positive that he will blame me for that... so in the end its me who is the bad one.

Just lie to him and say you miscarried...which would be more believable because of your age.

[smackie9]

There's always adoption!