Wife kissed a co-worker

[rob1984]

hmmm, no bitters eh.. how important do you think having a good relationship with their father impacts their upbringing.. this good easily narrow down my wifes depression.

[michelle23]

If your wife has issues get her some therapy. It will benefit both of you and your marriage. Its not necessarily daddy issues. It could just be she never got closure for what she went through or never dealt with past issues. If she had daddy issues she prob wud not have ended up with a good man

[rob1984]

yeah i know what you mean, but she better reacts when i treat her as if Im her dad almost, its very weird lol.. its hard to understand i guess.. but her need of attention from men, is worrisome not just for me but she can come off looking bad, and get disrespected.. as i know she just wants a friend.

[smackie9]

Sounds like she has a few therapy sessions ahead of her.

[rob1984]

Yeah, no kidding.. At least we know there is a problem. Thanks for the advive

[michelle23]

I hope it all works out for you both. Counselling is the best way forward. Embrace it together

[rob1984]

We'll see how it goes... Has anyone suffered from depression?

[smackie9]

You know everyone one does, it's just now that society is so coddled, people just need to snap out of it.

[rob1984]

i never feel that I have, Im very optomistic.. even at the bad times.. We shall see what the psychologist says.. Im very curious, but its up to her to tell me if she wants to.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Rob, hate to be the one to break it to you, but she didn't just make out with him. She ****ed him.

Drop her, and find a girl with some hair and some respect.

[rob1984]

wow you're a dick, I know my wife better than you, I'm guessing u have hard trust issues with women. Depression makes people do things they never wanted to.. I've screwed up before and never really planned too either. But I have no clue as to why I'm explaining my self to you.. Good luck in your paranoid life

[IndiReloaded]

Stung has been burned, yes. But he makes a good point about watching you making those excuses for her. Trust, but verify. Right?

[rob1984]

oh yeah, obviously.. but i am going based on my experience with her.. she never lied to me before.. she also knows I can find out easily based on my job title. I have access to certain information. Plus her remorse.. how she's acting.. I spoke to the guy as well.. he said the same thing she did.. Stories never changed from her at all all consistent, no gaps ect.. so I believe what she said.. Plus the big one..

I know she's even been on her period that day lol.. I knew she was hanging out with this person, she asked me first and I said sure no problem.. but i did not know the person from her work so I said email me on the hour and she did. She said this happened just before she was leaving, to meet me at home, He grabbed her arm and kissed her, she said she could not process what happened, she was filled with emotion... but stopped it.. and I called a few mins later and she told me to come get her cause she screwed up. Its not in her nature to be like this.. I think based on her up bringing, her recent issues with self esteem, being insecure.. my lack of attention.. she was filled with emotion. She's been burned by her friends a lot.. so she tries hard to impress people and she thinks he got the wrong idea from her.. she wanted a friend and she thinks she lead him on.

My wife is very very good looking.. at her prime she wanted to model.. men flock to her very easily.. and now cause how she feels, she lets people talk to her anyway they want, she flirts sometimes for attention..cause she feels that insecure and not her real self. Its wrong, but its not intentional.. she finds her self doing it in front of me and apologizes.., Listen.. there's horror stories out there of me or women cheating.. hiding it, lying ect... It could be worse. Rejecting her now is not what a husband does to support his wife when she is going through a bad time in her life.. and its bad. I can't imagine how a woman can feel waking up and your half your hair is on your pillow.

You know she never had to tell me, Id never know everything would be fine.. it would be her little secret right.. she even called her parents to tell her what she did. I applaud her for her honesty as she could have lost everything. Moved back with her parents. We have a pre nup as well. Since this happened.. she's been awesome... so attentive... more ambitious then ever.. I see the changes in her.. as she still suffers from insecurities.. still wears a wig cause her hair has not grown back.. lived with an alcoholic father, who never taught her about self respect like a father should. I'm happy to have an honest wife that is not scared to tell me anything like this and believes our marriage is strong enough to get through this.. and my lesson is to be more attentive, not as selfish and take my marriage for granted, as there are scum out there that just want to ruin people.. She is going to see a psychologist to fix her depression.. She will be speaking to her dad to get stuff of her shoulders that she is bottling up.

Stung.. Im sorry you got burned.. but everyone is different and you should not respond to threads with emotions behind them. As your situation is not the same as anyone
else.

Im also not defending her, her judgement was false.. but if i did this.. Id want to be forgiven unless it happened again.

[rob1984]

lol i just read Stung's posts to others and his threads.. he's a home wrecker, he's just like the dude at my wife's old work.. too insecure and ugly to get a real secure and confident woman and they prey on vulnerable ones haha, this is epic.. I honestly do not hate the guy that kissed my wife.. his life is pointless as it is.. and so is stung's haha, guy's gf does not respond to his text, while she wanted time off to specd with family cause her dad died, so he sleeps with another girl.. to all the people who take any of his advice... you're nuts.. this guy's is messed up being belief.. oh man.. I have a feeling you have many burns left in your future.. and its kinda funny when your gf, gets lonely and some guys ****s her haha.. good luck in life.. you need it.

[smackie9]

Stung has a point, most who cheat and feel guilt, will down play the experience and lie about how far it actually went. But to dump her is a little harsh I agree. You want to give it your best shot before deciding it's a worthless cause.