Need advice - what to do next?

[HeartIsAching]

You've got yourself an attention whore on your hands. As soon as you start giving her enough attention, she'll push you away. When you stop giving her attention, she'll try to get it back.

Run away.

[HK-LFL]

Forget her and move on. Dont blother wasting your time being friends. Rejection is normal and it will just help you to find someone better for you.

In future if you like a girl-just ask her out. If she says no-fine-move onto the next one lol. All this time wasted becoming her friend first just to get rejected is s kick in the balls.

Make it easier for yourself and good luck

Thank you

It's just hard because of how much effort and time I put into trying to make it work. I'll move on, or atleast I'll try. Thanks

[michelle23]

Your welcome its normal to feel dissapointed but youll bounce back. A few weeks of feeling a bit crappy and youll br ready to put yourself back out there.
Dont waste time on anyone who doesnt see potential in you. Plenty will-youll see

[HK-LFL]

Your welcome its normal to feel dissapointed but youll bounce back. A few weeks of feeling a bit crappy and youll br ready to put yourself back out there.
Dont waste time on anyone who doesnt see potential in you. Plenty will-youll see

Thank you - you have no idea how much I appreciate a positive response haha .

Literally the only thing that's holding me back from moving on is that I spent so much time and effort into making this work, but hopefully I can move on and try to improve myself and enhance my ability to deal with setbacks.

[michelle23]

Take your time-youll know when your ready

[HK-LFL]

Take your time-youll know when your ready

Thank you You're by far the most logical person I've spoken to about this, so I'll let you know in due course when I'l ready to move on! Haha, thank you again

[michelle23]

Great come back and give us an update soon thank you. Im glad i can help

[HK-LFL]

I will

I'm still texting her now, but more in a friend-type way. Is this a bad idea? It really feels like a bad idea because I know nothing is gonna come from it, but I just really like speaking to her. I've got this thought in my head of trying to make something happen one last time with a big romantic gesture of some sorts, but I'm having second thoughts about it.

This probably sounds quite pathetic so I apologize .

[smackie9]

Just man up and ask her out. "confidence" is very attractive to a girl.

[HK-LFL]

Just man up and ask her out. "confidence" is very attractive to a girl.

As I said in my previous post she said she thinks she likes me better as just a friend.

I understand what you mean about the confidence thing though, I just don't know whether or not i'll be pointless.

[smackie9]

Don't let that give you an excuse/ that's for the insecure. You don't know unless you try.

I was in a situation where I liked this guy, but his lack of confidence turned me off. Decades later we talked about it and I told him why and he told me kinda knew, regretted it.

[HK-LFL]

So you think I should just go for it even after what she said?

[michelle23]

I dont think you should waste any more time on her-even as friends. Your holding yourself back from meeting someone else and u will just look desperate or stupid to her if u ask her out now. She told u straight up she just wants to be friends.

OP there are billions of women in the world. Dont waste time on one that doesnt want you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and say NEXT!

[HK-LFL]

I'm trying, it's just hard haha.

[smackie9]

The only thing you are wasting your time on is being here. Just make a decision and move on.

When a girl drops the f bomb (friends), then you spent too much time second guessing yourself. Nevrousness and procrastination will put you in the friends zone everytime.