Can a "complicated relationship" get resolved?

[michelle23]

Rowen i cant like your posts for some reason but i do like them all

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[violet11]

Okay good for you just dont allow him to mess you around. Realize what your worth

Thank you Michelle Yeah, in the last few months I've started to realise my worth. Ironically, he's helped me with this more than anyone.

[Rowen]

Lol. What does commitment mean to you? Not a trick question. Because I realised that to me, it means being prepared to work through problems with someone. I've never been able to commit to anyone in this regard... as soon as things start to go wrong I'm out of there.

Right... Well, to me, that sounds like you're using him as a crutch while you assess your commitment issues...which is not right, in my opinion.

And since you asked, commitment to me is choosing one person for better or worse because you can't stand to be without them. If you had no intention of being committed to him, why did you try to work things out?

Rowen i cant like your posts for some reason but i do like them all

Thanks, Michelle! I wish I could like yours too- for some reason, if I hit the thank you button, it disappears some of the time. :S

[violet11]

If you had no intention of being committed to him, why did you try to work things out?

I never said I have no intention of committing to him. The same way that he didnt say he doesnt want to commit to me. We both just need more time.

I can't commit to him until I know him better... it's not a decision: it's a trust thing. If he turns out to be the guy I thought he was, then I 100% want to make it work. Until then, I find it very hard not to bolt when I feel threatened.

[Rowen]

All I can say then is good luck... But it still sounds way too sticky of a situation if you ask me.

[violet11]

All I can say then is good luck... But it still sounds way too sticky of a situation if you ask me.

I know... i hear you. Thank you for your input <3