Originally Posted by
dontaskme
Let me simplify this thing for you psudo because you are really going off a tangent here. The OP wants to introduce the douche to her parents but don't quite know how because of the age difference and because of the fact that the boyfriend is so close to the age of the father. Some posters, including myself said, yes, introduce him to your parents but don't lie about his age and just be upfront and truthful about it. There is nothing wrong in having her parents meet the guy in question here and for them to guide the daughter if need be unless there is something to hide.
And you can't compare your mother or grandmother to the OP because everyone is different. God bless your mother and grandmother, but this thread has got nothing to do with them!
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And no, I'm not planning to go to India ever!
Let me simplify this for you Don'tAsk, I already answered her question, with 'don't bother introducing him to your parents yet, if you know what their response is going to be. She doesn't sound open to them changing her mind about him, but rather hopes to change their minds. Her parents are likely to be as open minded as you all, or me, on this matter as I've clarified this is a mistake, in my opinion.
So she's just going to be starting shit for the sole purpose of starting it by introducing this guy to mom and dad.
My opinion stands, she is an adult, she can date him if she wants to, but I think it's cruel to put her parents through it. IF however, she wanted her parents opinion, that would be a different story.
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Have you ever stopped to think that this guy might WANT to meet her parents because he knows it will cause a rift between her and her family. If he manages to also offend her friends well then, if he is the abuser we all fear he might be, he has her exactly where he wants her, isolated from the people who care about her and fighting against their help and concern for her. Right now she's safe with a loving family with whom she speaks.
P.S. I can compare adults to adults if I like on a public forum.
Last edited by pseudosooz; 09-10-14 at 07:22 PM.
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