Yea, I have heard these theories before. They make sense and probably are true, but that means there are very, very few well adjusted, confident women. (Obviously, few well adjusted men as well.) I am good guy that can deal with issues. But I never get the chance. I could help, but I never can.
What I don't get is in my case a girl rejected me making short jokes, yada, yada, then hooked up with a married player who is at best less than an inch taller (though he's got me by 30 lbs) and is the most immature db I have ever seen. I thought fine and let them be. Then she got hurt and came running back to me. I declinced, not because she ****** another guy or rejected me, I could get beyond that. It was her choices that I believed showed a lack of integrity that simply couldn't be overlooked.
Well, now she is married (not the player) and pregnant. She dropped all her bad habits (gutter talk, drinking, smoking all gone) and appears to a great person and very happy. The player couldn't care less as he got what he wanted. I was so hurt, I work with these people everyday and haven't said a word to either of them for a year. I had to sit at a table with her and her 6'1" 230 lb husband for my boss's daughter's batmitzvah. For me this was horribly painful and very ackward. No one said anything. I played a lot of napkin hockey.
All becuase of my size. I mean what else am I to think? She ran off after she asked my height and made short jokes. You can say this girl is mean, maladjusted, her marriage won't last, I dodged a bullet. But the truth is I bet her husband was never shown the same girl I was. He knows a different girl than I did. I am tired of girls trashing on me and showing me a bad side they don't show others, becuase of my size. These guys would have no idea of what I am talking about. It is like I live in a different world and it is not a pleasent one.
I am a good guy, gregarious, outgoing, open-minded, adventureous, yada, yada. I don't like being alone. I am tired of carrying the pain of episodes like this, while others and included and happy. I have thought of suicide many times. But, to date, never have for one reason: the injustice of one having to take their own life just seems too wrong.
I have recently quit my job due to this. I am a trained fighter and I am seriously thinking of beating the **** out of the player before I leave. He instigated a lot of the Pee Wee insults and came braiging to me in private when he ****** her just to hurt me and stroke his ego. I love the bosses and they me, so no problem there. Although I don't wish to create a work issue for them to deal with. Both the player and the girl knew what they were doing was wrong and hurtful. I could see it in their eyes. They are nice to others, but because it was me, it's ok to act this way. I just want people to understand the injustice, the pain it causes and I don't think they will get it any other way.