I think this was mis-played by both sides, no parties showed clear intention about anything, so it came unravelled before it even got started.
I think this was mis-played by both sides, no parties showed clear intention about anything, so it came unravelled before it even got started.
"All is fair in love and war." - Francis Edward Smedley
For heavens sake, don't sleep with the guy in the hopes of making him more interested. You have sex b/c *you* want it. Anything else is just stupid. He's responsible for his own wants, and communicating them, same as you.
If you want to go out with this guy, say so. Sounds like you have a firm offer of a party. If that's not what you want, suggest something else. If he says no b/c you aren't yet 'putting out', then his problem. Next.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
The good players never seem like a player.
The Christmas thing was just a bluff.He would have stood you up again and he didn't talk much because the only thing on his mind was sex but he didn't want to expose himself by talking about just sex so he didn't know what to say.The thing about his body was just an opening line to lead the conversation towards sex.It's all reverse psychology and unassuming leading lines.I could go so deep into this game because I know it so well.An unassuming leading line is basically something you say to get the conversation to go in the direction you want it to go in without being direct.It's like telling a girl she has small feet and then saying something like "you probably have ugly feet".She will laugh,then she takes her shoe off to show you.You may touch her feet or talk about her legs after that.I wont give the game away but it's all about knowing how to follow up from there.I'll just start a blog to give the game up for the guys that dont have any.In any case,like I said "you waited him out long enough to expose him so you should feel good.
Yeah I'm still having a hard time believing he was a player....and I don't think the christmas thing was a front, he brought it up every time I saw him and was constantly saying I don't want to scare you off, you don't have to go if you don't want to. Before our first date he told me girls always tell him he's tOo nice.And he did a LOT of little dorky things that I think most girls would be turned off by. So I don't think he was. I wish I believed that because it would be easier to move on and blame everything on him being an asshole. I knew it was over when I posted on here but I thought I could somehow get him to be honest and tell me why he didn't want to see me anymore or what went wrong. It's the "not knowing" that makes it harder.