It doesn't do anything for me to fantasize about a guy I have no connection to
A lot of women feel this way Trem. Because we associate sex with our emotions. Guys don't do this as much because they (not all!) can fantasize about women they have no connection with. Think of it as a person that appreciates art looking at a beautiful piece of artwork. They will admire it, appreciate it and briefly might fantasize about it hanging in their loungeroom but for many reasons they don't buy it. Which in this analogy is the guy that is in a relationship with a beautiful woman he has an intimate connection with. Guys have big ego's, they love picturing themselves ****ing a hot woman. It has nothing to do with you or your relationship (unless it becomes an addiction and your sex life suffers). And unless we blindfold our men it is always going to be the case. Porn has always been around (I remember finding my dad's mags when I was younger - gross!) it is just far more accessible these days with the internet and somewhat accepted in society. We live in a very sexualised society not much is taboo anymore! Not saying I agree or disagree with it but it's a fact. Anyway I say if it isn't detrimental to the relationship let the little boys have their fun. It is the closest some of them are actually going to get to a super, super hot woman.
Some people are drains and some are radiators... Keep clear of the drains and hug the radiators!