It says hurt or injure, which I take to mean in a physical sense, not emotional.Originally Posted by whaywardj
It says hurt or injure, which I take to mean in a physical sense, not emotional.Originally Posted by whaywardj
It dosen't say that, Shh!, but you're free to interpret it in any way you wish.
Last edited by whaywardj; 30-11-05 at 07:25 PM.
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No LV, asking how someone's day was and what they did is not abuse lol.Originally Posted by Late_vamp
That is my point: it is all in interpretation, your definition as well as mine. I think whether or not one feels this is "abuse" has more to do with their own psychology, as there is no objective line which divides manipulation from abuse.Originally Posted by whaywardj
But overall, who cares? If one feels like they are being abused, they ought to move on.
Last edited by shh!; 30-11-05 at 09:51 PM.
Well. I didn't say "objective." I said "by definition." Not mine, btw. Let's you and I just agree to disagree and return our attention to the OP's issues.
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I think OP has fled. And even if she didn't it does not look like she is listening to any advice, just repeats various variations of what she thinks might be the problem. It's how you say in OP's native Ukranian "Goes in one ear and out of the other"Originally Posted by whaywardj
Besides, your argument brings way more life to this thread
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Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
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I sometimes think Shh! likes to argue just for the sake of arguing. Or, maybe, it's just that she likes to take exception to anything I say.
In any case, it appears you're right, Mishanya. The OP appears to have left the building.
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LOL... I can agree with you Hayward on the levels of abuse. For a second, I thought you were the one starting the arguement and then running away..
If you can't handle the thorns, don't crave the rose!!
For me, abuse runs along a spectrum, beginning with mental (e.g., verbal) abuse, then going to emotional (e.g., manipulation) abuse, then, finally, to physical abuse. An abuser reads one's tolerating any expression of it at the lower, "softer" end of the spectrum as tacit acceptance one will also tolerate expressions at the higher, "harder" end.
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Incidentally, I, somewhow, got the distinct impression that posting as she did, the OP was, actually, here to "husband shop." There was something just a bit off about her comments.
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sorry i coudn`t follow the discussion quite some time. but i have read all of your commants. thank you.Originally Posted by whaywardj
by the way could you explain the expression "husband shop" to me
Vika - do you feel you are being "abused" or is he simply insecure?
Why did you join a marriage agency thing?
If one considers marriage a contractual arrangement, then I don't think it matters. I assume both people are expecting this to not be a marriage of passionate, romantic love, but rather based on mutual affection at best.
Yeah, so who cares if she really loves him or not?