Am I a ***** for being upset when my fiance watches porn?

[Junsui]

I dated a guy like that.

[Rosebud]

All in all, back to the OP I think you should try some of the ideas everyone has mentioned. I mean it can't hurt to try to join in... I know it may seem weird but it's amamzig how much closer it will bring you two together.

[Only-virgins]

Why is he an idiot?

Why isn't he an idiot?. He married a biatch that complains when he watches porn and she was a slut to begin with. What comes around goes around.

[Debunkt]

Wow. Nobody said she was a slut. Believe it or not people can have sexual experience and not be sluts.

[Only-virgins]

Wow. Nobody said she was a slut. Believe it or not people can have sexual experience and not be sluts.

Oh....ok....well then whats a slut genius?

[boobaa]

Wait a minute here... your a girl right? At least I thinks so from this post.

Are you serious? Porn is not another woman..porn is visual stimulation...they get off by what's happening not that they weant to F*** THAT exact Girl. If you really think like this, you will have a hard time understanding a guy's perspective on sex, if at all.

Hmm, according to your talk, I can got to club and lurk for sex and it is not considered cheating? i don't want that other girl, I just want sex from her...

[Junsui]

In that scenario you are actually going out and being physical with another person, so yeah that is cheating.

[Debunkt]

Oh....ok....well then whats a slut genius?

Someone who has lots of sex with lots of different people. We're talking 15+. Just because he said "she has experience" doesn't mean she has promiscuously had sex with dozens of guys. Maybe she had 4 sexually active relationships before this one. That doesn't make her a slut.

[Tone]

Debunkt anyone who hasn't slept with OV, but has "experience", is a slut, duh.

[Debunkt]

Apparently.

[Rosebud]

Hmm, according to your talk, I can got to club and lurk for sex and it is not considered cheating? i don't want that other girl, I just want sex from her...

WTF are you talking about??? If you have sex with another person than who your in a relationship with your cheating! If you look at someone...your looking at someone....

How old are you again? I know you haven't had experience and all but you really need to see another side here?

[Rosebud]

Someone who has lots of sex with lots of different people. We're talking 15+. Just because he said "she has experience" doesn't mean she has promiscuously had sex with dozens of guys. Maybe she had 4 sexually active relationships before this one. That doesn't make her a slut.

Does this mean if you've slept with more than 15 people your a slut? No matter what your age or if that number matches your relationship number as well?

[misombra]

I am set to get married soon and I love my fiance with all my heart... I really do.
I don't have nearly the sex drive he does (he was a virgin when we met, I was far from it, and we were both 21. We are now 23.)

I have been trying to give him more, I know a man has needs and I want him to be happy. We were finally to a place where I wasn't feeling overstretched.... Yet he still has a need to watch porn and get himself off like 3 or 4 times a week. Sometimes when I come home from work, he will have left it on the computer. It makes me feel completely inadequate, knowing I am still not enough and no matter what he will never be satisfied. I don't know HOW many times we have fought over this.

I woke up the other day and he was masterbating while I SLEPT. It's not only hurtful to me, it's downright creepy.

Am I completely out of line here??

it's okay that your boyfriend watches porn. unless it's gay porn. as you simply put, men have needs. not all of them can be fullfilled by you.

[Hugo Pickle]

Hmmm, you say you’ve been with this guy going on 3 years and you say that your about to get married. Yet still you say you don’t have the sex drive that he does and that 4 times a week sound excessive to you. That’s not good at all. Twice a day everyday is not excessive. Here’s what I think, I am hopefully wrong but I have seen it before. I think because your fiancé was a virgin when you met then you have put all these crazy ideas into his head about sex. I think that you don’t do it nearly as often as you should and you probably don’t experiment or anything at all.

I think that the reason that you are upset about him watching porn is because you don’t want him to know anything about sex that you don’t teach him. I think you like the fact that he has only been with you and you probably hoard that over him like your some kind of expert and constantly tell him that he doesn’t know anything. I bet that you’re upset about him watching porn because you know that he will want to try new things in bed that you don’t want to do and are afraid of doing because you know that when you do he will find out the truth that you don’t know much more about sex than he does. I think that you are insecure. I think this will defiantly be a problem for your marriage.

The real question is why you don’t have the drive to experiment in bed. Why do you not want to do it more than 4 times a week? I bet you never thought that a few of us here would point the finger at you and not your boyfriend. You call yourself inadequate. Why? That’s not the term people usually use when discussing the frequency of sex that is a term someone uses when discussing the intensity of sex. I think you made a Freudian Slip.

I say all this because your situation sounds like one a friend of mine in the military had. My friends wife never put out so to speak and whenever they had sex it was marginal. They never experimented and over time he cheated on her and came to the conclusion that his ex-wife was a prude and had too many personal hang ups for sex to be fun and exciting. Last I heard he was happy with his new girlfriend.

If you care about your guy then you will find out why you don’t want to have sex and why you have a problem with his watching porn. I think it is sad and pathetic that your so called fiancé has to jack off when you are only 2 feet from him in the same freaken bed. Let me talk to him and I will tell him all this and convince him to find someone else who isn’t a total selfish prude insecure you know what. Let this poor man go to find someone that will make him happy for crying out loud.

harsh you might think of me but i am not the one who is about to have wedding vows with someone and then holding out sex from them.

[Only-virgins]

Someone who has lots of sex with lots of different people. We're talking 15+. Just because he said "she has experience" doesn't mean she has promiscuously had sex with dozens of guys. Maybe she had 4 sexually active relationships before this one. That doesn't make her a slut.

Uhh..I beliece her word were " far from it" when speaking of virginity. Figure it out Einstien.

Does this mean if you've slept with more than 15 people your a slut? No matter what your age or if that number matches your relationship number as well?

Only Debunkt and Tone can set the border line between normal and slut...didn't you know?