Well then fine then, make that going out and hitting on other chicks thing more than once a week. Remember she is the one who did you wrong. She is the one who out of the blue went as saw her ex. Now she went and did it again, but you foolishly told her too. That's no excuse though, she was probably going to see him again anyway.
Remember in my first post that I said it sounds like you got too into this girl before she was totally into you? Well, I still stand by that. You kind of came on pretty strong there. You totally put her on the spot and demanded her to make her choice on the phone with you. Learn from this that whenever you do that they will usually get pissed and not want to talk with you. You can't angrily demand that they make a choice, the choice will most often be not you, even if they really would choose you they will say no simply because you demanded an answer.
My guess is that she started seeing her ex and losing interest in you because you showed your hand too soon. I think that you were not a challenge anymore, I think you gave in to her too much. I think that when she said jump, then sometimes you said, how high. But all is not lost even now. What you have to do is what we all have been telling you from the get go.
You have to be a challenge, have more self control, and develop more confidence. here is the breakdown.
Control
a. Never get rattled or uptight
b. Comic charmer not Silent Brooder.
c. Do not let her control you
d. You control yourself
you practice self control by thinking before you react to what is going on. If it was a war then that’s different, but this is dating and women so it is the opposite of war. in dating and women you have to take your time before you react. Think chess, not ping pong.
Challenge
a. Patience
b. Do not let her control you
c. Exciting, sometimes because of inaction
d. She doesn’t know where you stand in the relationship.
You practice being a challenge by making yourself unavailable for every little thing. you also do what you want and plan your life instead of simply thinking every day is a day spent with her just doing whatever. Focus on you, your life, your friends, and of course, your women. You are not married so don't act like it. Play the field until you find a girlfriend and even when you have a girlfriend still see other women as friends. Never lose your black book until you tie the knot.
Confidence
a. Do not give in to ultimatums
b. she will test you, pass them, don’t simply refuse to play the game.
You practice this by cherishing your success. You got this girl once right? hey, chalk it up as a partial success, not a total failure. Have some confidence and pull it out when you need some.
When you are dating other women remember not to get all into them until they are into you. And even then keep them guessing on where you stand, never pour your heart out on paper or some sappy phone message. It makes for good drama on tv, but in reality it only makes you look weak most of the time. When you are dating those other girls focus on evaluating them for the following things
What you should be looking for in her?
1. Integrity (honesty, does what she says)
2. Giving (does things for you)
3. Supportive
4. Unstructured (doesn’t have inflexible perceptions of life)(freedom)
5. High interest in you.
Calm down most of all and take it one day at a time. You have many years left to find the perfect girl, and when you think you found her, then you will learn that no one is perfect. Everyone has faults, everyone screws up, even the so called perfect girl that you thought you had, and yes even you.