Boyfriend on holiday for 2 weeks

[dollface82]

so, is it best I just view myself as single now?

date other people?

I'm not going to contact him at all, but if I don't hear from him within 2 weeks, I never talk to him again, its just totally disrespectful.

[Gigabitch]

Wait, are you officially broken up? If not, you should write him a "Dear John" letter.

[Illusional]

dollface... do you think you can go for the two weeks without contacting him??

holy shit... ok here's some encouragement. my sister, she had a good 3 year relationship with her bf. the funny thing is that he's from texas and she's here in hawaii. well he was going to school here and i believe they kept the long-distance thing going for about a year and a half. well to keep it short in the end he told her never to call again and she didn't. i'm so proud of my sister. she never talked to him again.. that's all willpower baby!!!

raverboy

[dollface82]

today I have decided that we're over.

I'll wait and see what he comes back with, but its goign to take a while to rebuild the relationship.

He lied about going overseas!!! And started packing in front of my face - how terrible is that!

[thelonius]

Don't even look forward to wait for the day that he comes back to you. My sister's friend [actually her college roommate] was once engaged to be married to this man. Everything was going well, until a simple misunderstanding turned ugly. Like your situation, he decided to disappear from the picture [for the time being at least]. He packed up and went away for days [backpacking and camping with his buddies] without any correspondence. When he resurfaced, it got uglier. To make a long story short-- the printed invitations, guest list, dresses and gowns, flowers, tux rentals, limo, travel arrangements -- all collapsed into a pile of rubble ... 1 1/2 month before the set date.

[anachronistic]

today I have decided that we're over.

I'll wait and see what he comes back with, but its goign to take a while to rebuild the relationship.

He lied about going overseas!!! And started packing in front of my face - how terrible is that!

that's bullshit! don't get back with him.

[dollface82]

it just hurts so much because I still really care for him but I know I shouldn't.

strangest thing is - I have all his friends acalling/emailing me asking for his new contact details, as he hasn't given them out to them.

Seems really bizarre, surely he'd want to catch up with his guy mates?

[Gigabitch]

He's busy freaking out, having a personal crisis.

I think you need to split up with him even if you secretly just pine away for him and wait for him to come and get you back. You have to draw a line, here.

So stop trying to justify the fact that he's treating you like crap by pointing out that he's treating everyone else the same way. You're his girlfriend. You're supposed to get special treatment.

[Tiay]

yeah I agree. And I don't see that there's personal crisis that could justify this (tho I know that's not what you meant giga). Anyway, yeah, start thinking about other guys- ones who would cherish you and never lie to you.

[dollface82]

so do you see now why I'm so torn?

Its either he is really going through a personal crisis, or, he has no disregard for his friends either and hasn't contacted them, because if he is with a new girl it would get back to me?

[Tiay]

even if he is going through a personal crisis- his girlfriend should be the one he confides in! not the ever one he lies to.

Think about it- if YOU had some kinda crisis, would you have lied to him?

[dollface82]

I guess being the kind of perosn I am I jsut can't rationalise his behaviour.

a least be honest and tell me if you wanted the relationship to be over when i asked right? Not lie and then tell me you want a break the next day?

[GratefulOne]

I totally agree with Tiay!

[Tiay]

I guess being the kind of perosn I am I jsut can't rationalise his behaviour.

a least be honest and tell me if you wanted the relationship to be over when i asked right? Not lie and then tell me you want a break the next day?

yeah, that makes no sense. best guess is he was getting laid, of course. Sure, some part of him probably was into you, too, but who cares?