What do women...

[miSSleepy]

If I ask her "whats your wearing" would that be something okay to ask in a conversation?

Now THAT is where most guys go wrong with me! "What are you wearing" has to be the worst conversation blocker out there, and just gets an eye-roll. It's dumb and cliched.

However...if you were to ask that jokingly while talking to her in PERSON... you should get a giggle and it could work as an ice-breaker. IF she gets the joke.

[Gribble]

Here's an idea. Ask her what's she's wearing, but before she can roll her eyes say, "No, wait. Lemme guess..." Then come up with something clever that'll get her laughing.

[Stirfry]

If I ask her "whats your wearing" would that be something okay to ask in a conversation?

If you're trying to give the impression that you're an asshole and you just want to sleep with her, go for it...

try something that'll have the opposite effect like, "how's your day going?"

[Henry123]

Any other conversational openers?

[Babydoll]

We like to talk about ourselves. What we like to do. Our opinions. Our favourites. What happened to us yesterday. Or maybe I'm just really, really self-centred.

[Henry123]

Thanks Babydoll!Anymore?

I sometimes have a hard time intiating a conversation with people. Currently I'm working on a list of things to talk about and initiate a conversation (I'm really bad at it. I've been trying to improve my social skills more. I'm a pretty bad story teller. My comments are usually too short and I'm struggling to elabaorate more on it.)

[vashti]

Are you students? Ask about her classes, her major, her professors...

If she works, ask about her job: what is the best thing about it, how long has she worked there, etc.

Ask about her family: does she have siblings, pets, etc.

[pinkscorpion]

Talk to her about her favorite subject: herself.

Girls are inherently narcissistic creatures; even the insecure ones are still always thinking about themselves.

Ask her:
where she's from, what she does for a living, what she's studying in school, what's she drinking (if you're at the bar), what she likes to do for fun, etc. Those are the basic get to know you questions and it's not hard to start a conversation from there.

[Tedel]

Talk to her about her favorite subject: herself.

Girls are inherently narcissistic creatures; even the insecure ones are still always thinking about themselves.

Ask her:
where she's from, what she does for a living, what she's studying in school, what's she drinking (if you're at the bar), what she likes to do for fun, etc. Those are the basic get to know you questions and it's not hard to start a conversation from there...

Just be careful not ending up like if she were under an interrogatory.

[Henry123]

Are you students? Ask about her classes, her major, her professors...

If she works, ask about her job: what is the best thing about it, how long has she worked there, etc.

Ask about her family: does she have siblings, pets, etc.

No I'm not a student Vashti. Although I am thinking of going back to take something else. I've already been through college but dont like my chosen profession.

I like the other tips about her classes..., job.., work.., family... etc.

I tried talking to someone a few days ago (at work) about how long she worked there but it seemed to have ended pretty abruptly and there was alot of silence in between (I felt horrible).

How do I move from job to something more about her beliefs, personal life, values, whats important to her etc.

[Henry123]

Talk to her about her favorite subject: herself.

Girls are inherently narcissistic creatures; even the insecure ones are still always thinking about themselves.

Ask her:
where she's from, what she does for a living, what she's studying in school, what's she drinking (if you're at the bar), what she likes to do for fun, etc. Those are the basic get to know you questions and it's not hard to start a conversation from there.

I will certainly include those in my list of things to ask for. Is there more I can ask. I'm having some difficulties talking to people at a new place I am working at. At times I simply dont know how to carry a conversation further. It really makes me feel uncomfortible.

Just be careful not ending up like if she were under an interrogatory.

I'll try to keep that in mind. Sometimes I feel I might come off as an interrogator.

[vashti]

No I'm not a student Vashti. Although I am thinking of going back to take something else. I've already been through college but dont like my chosen profession.

I like the other tips about her classes..., job.., work.., family... etc.

I tried talking to someone a few days ago (at work) about how long she worked there but it seemed to have ended pretty abruptly and there was alot of silence in between (I felt horrible).

How do I move from job to something more about her beliefs, personal life, values, whats important to her etc.

Discussions about general topics such as movies or books can be great bridges to discussions about more substantial topics.

[pinkscorpion]

Well, whenever she answers a question you ask, if you know anything about her response, use that as a springboard for further conversation.

Sample Conversation:

You: So, where are you from?
Her: Germany (or wherever).
You: Oh, cool, what part of Germany? I have family that lives outside of Berlin (or wherever).

[trulyblesd]

Hi there..

I'm thinking it maybe akward because you're abit nervous? Am I right? if so, try this! Ask her if she wants to play 20 q's, and if she says yes, the each of you can answer the q's. make sense? best of luck to you.