Comments About Other Women

[Gigabitch]

I told my boss about all this and he called Cali Boy an amateur, so now I have this song running through my head:

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wf6Z2fpJgjY"]YouTube - Aimee Mann "Amateur" music video[/ame]

[IndiReloaded]

Amateur or amature? LOL.

CaliBoy is a good guy. He's just got some boundaries to figure out. He'll get there.

How's your own training going?

[misombra]

i just saw artyemi's wedding pictures omg they're so cute.

[IndiReloaded]

Are they on here?

BTW, any wedding is a beautiful wedding. So long as it isn't mine.

"Its not me, its not me...ahahahahaha!"

[Tiay]

I have to say there are some contexts within which I wouldn't mind that. But in general that's just not respectful. But you don't the validation of other women sharing your feeling on this. You don't like it and that is enough.

[AnotherPoster]

Not necessarily, but it's still... weird. Unnatural, I guess. You wouldn't find a gorilla pointing out an attractive female to her mate, would you?

It seems like a mind****, actually. A bluff. Pretending to be so secure within your relationship that you can browse the meat section together.

I'll only believe it if a poster I actually know says this. For all I know, Another Poster is actually my boyfriend.

LOL, I assure you I'm not your boyfriend, and I have plenty of proof.

We do ogle men together. He occasionally points out some nice ones to me too (knowing my fondness for long hair, for instance), but it's all harmless fun. Perhaps it would be different depending on relationship history and what your boyfriend's intentions are/if they are actual intentions.


It's not a bluff. We are truly open and genuine people, and maybe slightly odd, too. Trust has been there since day 1. It clicked, immediately. Therefore, I find this a very trivial thing in the grand scheme of things. I don't mind at all. It's just the way we do things, I suppose. I have no reason to doubt him, and he has no reason to doubt me. I dislike tying people down. I don't believe in marriage, for instance. I don't believe in contracts. I don't see the need for unnecessary boundaries. Perhaps it's naive of me, but a tiny dose of naivety is all good.

So far, this attitude has served me well. It's a fairly liberal stance, I suppose, but it's what I'm used to. I find the opposite strange. *wonders if it's a regional thing (or perhaps age factors in?)* That's just how I go about things at this stage in life. Maybe it will change ten years down the road, but I highly doubt it. If someone wants someone, they will go for them regardless of whether you point that out or not. Bear in mind, we only talk looks-wise. I wouldn't bring up the amazing qualities of a certain woman to him day in, day out. Well, maybe if she was nice and charismatic, and there is reason for admiration. Not all the time, however. Luckily, there is no reason to doubt commitment in our case, despite the fact that we're very young.

Sorry for the long post.

You don't like it and that is enough.

This is true. If it bothers you, he should be respectful enough to keep quiet. Or you can compromise somehow.

How are you doing so far?

[AnotherPoster]

Maybe there is a psychological reason for this. "Browsing the meat market" together, as you put it, could mean that we see all the different options for us out there, yet we've still chosen each other? A validation of sorts. In this case, it would be something akin to a bluff.

[vashti]

I have no reason to doubt him, and he has no reason to doubt me. I dislike tying people down. I don't believe in marriage, for instance. I don't believe in contracts. I don't see the need for unnecessary boundaries.

Kind of reminds me of that Bob Dylan song ... "when you ain't got nothing, you've got nothing to lose".

[AnotherPoster]

Kind of reminds me of that Bob Dylan song ... "when you ain't got nothing, you've got nothing to lose".

True. That Bob Dylan sure had a way with lyrics.

Edit: With regards to contracts, it's nice to know that you don't have to tie someone up with a formal agreement and that they still DESIRE/CHOOSE to be there by your side. Choice is crucial.

[boobaa]

Are there any females out there who aren't bothered by some of the comments made by their SO about other women?

Let me 'splain: I'm not talking about the "I've always thought Natalie Portman was really pretty" or "I've had a crush on Heidi Klum since I was a kid" kind of comments.

I'm talking about specific comments about legs, boobs or ass, as in "She's a good actress and has a great pair of legs" or like "Scarlett Johannsen doesn't need talent- not with that rack".

Yes, I know that boys will be boys and men are visual creatures, etc. I understand this.

I just want to know if there are any women out there that don't find themselves annoyed when their SO says something like this, or even when guy friends make comments like that.

This seems like Boyfriend 101 to me.

What makes men so special?

Women do this stuff too, and I have seen they do it a lot more than men. At least when bf is not around...


Ok, a question for you, Giga, you are not single right, so, do you ever fancy someone else than your SO, are you secret about it?

Its just that men are dirty and women are not, at least that is what we are supposed to believe... I think the actual thing is vice versa.

[Gribble]

I don't see what all the fuss is about. I mean, if he was telling you how his secretary at work has the greatest rack he's ever seen, okay, that might be cause for concern. But so what if he's fawning over celebrities?

[Gigabitch]

Well, how would you guys like it if your girlfriend did what GrkScorp suggested, and started talking about this "perfect penis" she saw in a porn movie?

Would that be cool?

[Gribble]

As long as it's my penis she's sucking at the end of the day I'm happy.

[misombra]

yeah but this is gerbil.

he is a different kind of man.

[Junket]

I'm bored of blow jobs.