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[squirrley]

Panda what the hell is he gonna ask her? What are you dissing me? Id say leave it alone right now...I mean guys and gals differ when it comes to certain things.

Zekk do what you feel is right-I dont think shes dissing you at the moment. Give her a buzz in a day or so and ask her if she needs in any help or something-dont go ANY where near the "whats going on?" you just started talking and stuff-play it cool man.

You dont want to her to think youre already dissapointed in how things are-because what if theres nothing really going on and youre reading into it? Let her get settled. It takes us gals awhile to get the comfy zone again in her homes...at least she responded lastnight thats a good sign.

Not all is lost buddy...

[Zekk_T_Strife]

Yeah, I thought it was a good sign that she actually wanted to message me. I agree and shall not attempt to communicate with her for the next few days. She is leaving for Guadalajara on the 8th, should I make contact with her before she leaves?

[squirrley]

Definetly! You dont want her leaving thinking youre not interested anymore. Give her a call or AOL or whatever in the next day and keep it casual-and maybe before she leaves you can tell her have a great time and maybe we can get together when you get back...something of that nature...but let her leave on good thoughts about you and what the possibilities could be...cha ching!!!


Ring her bell Zekk-

[Zekk_T_Strife]

Talkin to her right now actually, she still seems a little disinterested but she IS talking to me. I'll follow your advice.

[squirrley]

what makes you think shes not interested? Is she being aloof? Are you having to hold the entire conversation? Give her open ended questions...not the yes or no things-keep things simple with her...good luck Zekk-

[Zekk_T_Strife]

Yeah, she basically just answering with short little spurts and I had to lead the whole convo. She said she had to go and got offline and came back on like a minute later but isn't talking to me. I asked her open ended questions but she answered as quickly as possible and didn't ask anything back. What do you think now?

[squirrley]

well hell-shes preoccupied with something-shes not giving you her undivided attention-but thats not a bad thing-she could be on AOL with like who knows how many other people-do you talk on the phone at all? If you could find a way to talk to her where shes not in a situation to be distracted you might get some lead way with her.

Ok Zekk-ask her to lunch before she leaves. Or coffee. Something during the day something friendly not so romantic...try that-

[Zekk_T_Strife]

She's in Illinois. Besides she's always given me her undivided attention online before we met. I think it's just about to time let it go don't you think? Sounds pretty hopeless.

[jane]

Illinois? .. but Im in Cali? ... j/k ..

you are so quick to give up... its not hopeless yet!
why dont you ask her?
have you tried that yet?

[Zekk_T_Strife]

I thought I wasn't supposed to be like "what's going on" because we only met once, I shouldn't look too much into it. But I do like how I'm feeling the love with so many replies to my thread.

[PandaCivic]

I thought I wasn't supposed to be like "what's going on" because we only met once, I shouldn't look too much into it. But I do like how I'm feeling the love with so many replies to my thread.

see? there's a reason why i told you to ask her what's going on. i don't ask her "wat the hell b***h?" i just mean ask her what's wrong in general. be there for her as a friend and offer her some advice or just a ear to listen. this type of drastic change in her appearance to you is definitely signs that something is wrong in her life. and it's none of your business what it is exactly but it IS affecting you. so give it a shot. ask her what's on her mind and be sarcastic and tell her that you're nosy. something like that. a guys point of view is useless but it does help to realize that guys are sensitive too. sorta...

[PandaCivic]

Panda what the hell is he gonna ask her? What are you dissing me? Id say leave it alone right now...I mean guys and gals differ when it comes to certain things.

Zekk do what you feel is right-I dont think shes dissing you at the moment. Give her a buzz in a day or so and ask her if she needs in any help or something-dont go ANY where near the "whats going on?" you just started talking and stuff-play it cool man.

You dont want to her to think youre already dissapointed in how things are-because what if theres nothing really going on and youre reading into it? Let her get settled. It takes us gals awhile to get the comfy zone again in her homes...at least she responded lastnight thats a good sign.

Not all is lost buddy...

apparently Zekk has feelings for this chick. he needs to at least say something good before she's out of his life.

[squirrley]

OF course he should-but in a nonchalant way-theyve only talked on line or on the phone-he cant act obsessed about it. Things may have changed with the situation-we dont know whats going on with her-we can only assume. I think he should feel the situation out-before she leaves...I suggested asking her out-

I didnt realize they were in seperate states. It makes it harder.

Zekk do what you what you feel in your heart. If you think its not going anywhere then bail-If you think shes just got a lot going on-then hang on for a little while and see- Its up to you-we were just trying to help buddy!

[jane]

well panda.. I think your on the right track but i would tone it down... you can ask whats up with really asking whats up ya know?

If it was me, I would be like.. hey____ .. how are ya? (try and keep it simple). havent talked to you in awhile.. been busy?
little stuff.. ya know?

But I also agree with Squirrley... do what you feel is right in your heart, if you like her and really want to get to know her.. why not just say that?

[Zekk_T_Strife]

Personally....I don't think it's anything going on in her life that's making her distant. I just think that after meeting me for the first time she had a change of heart and saw something she really didn't like in me. I've gotten over it though, we only hung out once and the rest was all online and over the phone. I really appreciate the help though, means a lot to see how this thread just kinda exploded with replies.