Would you date a slightly overweight girl?

[vashti]

Yup. It's a matter of extremes, and at either extreme, there is a seriously messed up person.

[Aeradalia]

but there's a fair bit ground between eating and starving oneself to death. A lot of ground for those who just can't be bothered to watch what they eat and/or do the occasional run around the block.

And a lot of excuses on why they can't be bothered to watch what they eat or do the occasional run around the block...

This detracts from the ones who have genuine medicinal side effects, faulty genetics, or psychological disorders as the culprit of their obesity.

[Lipp]

I think you have a good chance still, it varies but I reckon that people who work in gyms eventually get really tired of always seeing girls that are toned and tanned. It gets old.

If I was a judge for a beauty pageant (oh the horror) I think Id get tired as hell of girls. Frikin' barbie dolls.

[Gribble]

Not everyone is overweight because they eat too much and/or exercise too little. It's best to understand this up front. Not to mention that there are a good number of people who over eat for personal comfort due to mental issues. Nothing at all to do with eating too much, and all too much to do with an inability to cope with something without food.

That's my point. Why would I want to date a girl with a mental illness? Why would I want someone with emotional baggage?

Second, I refuse to believe America just so happens to have a disproportionate number of people with low metabolisms and thyroid disorders. People are lard asses because they lack willpower.

Bring back the supersize menu. I think McDonald's is doing the world a service by facilitating the heart attacks of the gullible and weak-minded.

[Lite]

Second, I refuse to believe America just so happens to have a disproportionate number of people with low metabolisms and thyroid disorders. People are lard asses because they lack willpower.

We have a food source that is stapled by carbs... Wheat and Corn. It's what all the poor people eat. Look at cheap foods, it is always processed carbs. And, to be honest aside from people eating too much, it's the government's fault for ****ing our food supply over so much due to poor subsidization policies.

[NBT]

I get this a lot.

On the ONE hand, I am not PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED to bigger women. I never have been. But on the OTHER hand, usually, a PERSONALITY trait of a bigger woman can cause me to OVERLOOK her weight problem, and like her for HER (not LUST, though, as there's a difference.)

The PROBLEM is, that BECAUSE I'm attracted to slimmer/average sized girls, the bigger chick I'm talking to NOW, will feel insecure, thinking I don't like HER. But let me explain something:

If he's TALKING to you, he must like you. REGARDLESS of what body types he is "NORMALLY" attracted to, he's talking to YOU right now. So why not just ACCEPT it?

I'm a skinny guy. But I don't question the girls who like me, just because they used to date BODY-BUILDERS! I just go with the flow.

Now, in YOUR situation it's DIFFERENT, because of the COMMENTS he makes. But even THEN, if you HAVE to ask, just ask ONCE. Make a comment like "Well damn! If you don't like HER body what the hell do you see in ME?" (but don't sound TOO serious about it)

When you ask THAT ^^ question, he'll explain to you (likely) that your body isn't as bad, or you have more personality or some shit like that.

Now, once he EXPLAINS that to you, STOP with the INSECURITIES! He's TALKING to you for a REASON. So, just ACCEPT IT!

[Doc Durian]

Ok the 40 year old guy I'm trying to get to know better is obsessed with the gym and keeping fit. He eats well, looks pretty damn good but is also usually very down to earth and kind.
I noticed all previous gf's of his have been super fit gym junkies with body's to die for. I've also noticed the relationships haven't lasted.
I'm kind of a curvy build gone soft..the exact opposite of his ex's. We flirt a bit and sometimes I think he's keen on me but the physical side of things worries me.
He once said he felt physically sick after seeing some of the contestants on biggest loser. I was disgusted at his reaction, but thought maybe that's a sign that my body may also turn him off.
Other times when I talk about getting fit he says women aren't barbie dolls and it's normal for women to be curvy.
I'm confused also as he loves to point out "gross" pictures of women with cellulite and I cringe thinking well that's what my legs look like too.
If we clicked in every other way do you think from his perspective my soft but curvy body would be a deal breaker?
Thanks

Get him hooked on Bob Marley and smoke... He and his average body will be down in no time.....mon

[brigitte]

Thank you NBT...what a great reply! Yes I have to just accept that he's is talking to me and i'm probably over thinking everything. I will try to just go with the flow.
Thanks!

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

I dont think there's any excuse for eating McDonalds and getting fat. McDonalds is expensive ass food nowadays. 7 bucks for a ****ing quarter pounder?

I'd rather spend 5 bucks on the 5 dolla footloooooong!

Seriously, subway does help you lose weight.

I know I'm overweight but I would never let myself go so far that I'm waddling like a penguin. That's just being lazy.

[RedRoses]

I think everyone is attractive and there is nothing wrong with having a little more to love. Everyone wants something to grab onto, ribs and bones are not very attractive. Give me a chubby man over a skinny guy any day.

[Aeradalia]

I think everyone is attractive and there is nothing wrong with having a little more to love. Everyone wants something to grab onto, ribs and bones are not very attractive. Give me a chubby man over a skinny guy any day.

Not saying that some people aren't attractive... rather like you've demonstrated... people have preferences... and the general consensus is that those who are obese (not chubby or sporting a little extra weight... but those who have gained so much weight as to cause serious health risks and even physical limitations) lose out in favor of those who are 'slimmer'... like those who workout, are trim, only have a few added pounds... and a little 'chubby.'

As shown from previous posts... there are two reasons they may lose out. Many people may not appreciate their appearance... that one is obvious and often attributed to shallowness. One step further... obesity may be the result of mental illness or a genetic defect... neither of which are appealing in those seeking long term relationships... particularly mental illness.


Moderately thin to moderately overweight tends to be the 'norm' and anything on either extreme is physically undesired and hints at genetic and/or mental illness. So yes... sometimes appearance does matter... it's sad, it's unfair... but despite all that a person can tolerate... there will be extremes beyond what they are willing to tolerate or find acceptable in a potential boyfriend/girlfriend. Appearances are part of the 'sorting' process.

[doppelgaenger]

I'd date a slightly overweight woman. I don't give a damn about those kinds of things.

[Sonrisa]

oooh, date me then N.

[doppelgaenger]

I am too young and wild for you

[Sonrisa]

blah, not too wild for sure.