Is ignoring an apology rude?

[MaidenMinx]

Agree with Vashti: It's time to face the piper, Minx. You've been in denial for sometime now and if you're smoking pot and discussing how your brother bogartted his joint my friend, in front of your 8 year old son, then you've lost track of your priorities. You sound like a typical addict who gets bent out of shape when they didn't get their fix for the day.. (btw.. No I don't think it's rude that he ignored your apology. I think he's just not ready to readily take your verbal abuse and allow you to think he'll dismiss it just because you say you're sorry) and I tell you this because there's no sense beating around the bush any more. Both you and hubby could use some friends around the table at your local AA meeting. Speak to your doctor about detoxing and in the meantime google for an AA chapter near you. Do you think hubby would join you in a quest for sobriety?

I'm in the camp that thinks booze is far more harmful than weed would ever be in destroying lives and the family dynamic when it's being abused so don't think I'm giving a predjudicial opinion here.

Big E-hug to you. Don't take offense please but it is what it is... at least you're certainly painting a picture of it being that.

Wow. I'm just going to say here this is the last time I post my personal shit here.

Why I wow you wake up is I thought out of everyone here, I thought you might have read the whole post.

The medication I was on at the time screwed me up big time. I was thoroughly scared for myself and had talked to hubby about whether o r not I should go to hospital. He asked is it that bad? And after a nasty sarcy comment about how it was normal for me to want to cut off my breasts I sighed and said maybe I just need a cone. He said do that and see how you go.

Yes I know I am an addict. No I am not going to go to rehab. I am not a junkie and all the local facilities a for needles users or alcoholics. I am in drug and alcohol counselling (as I already said) and at this point that is all I am prepared to do.

Everyone I know smokes. I mean everyone. Recovering alcoholics avoid bars. How am I supposed to avoid my whole family and all my friends?
No matter what I do my son is going to be bought up around it, unless I move to the other side of the country and not tell anyone where I've gone.

Hubby would be happy to give up pot but not alcohol. I'm the reverse.

It's not that I want to be like this, it's just easier to be. I don't even know where to start. If you had seen the local rehabs you would understand my refusal to go there. If you saw how many people around me smoke, you would understand how difficult it is to stop and would commend me for the fact that I have had ANY small successes in the past. If you saw how much my husband drinks when we're not smoking, you would realise why I am content to have the lesser of 2 evils around.

[Wakeup]

I did read the whole post/thread doll! I've read all of your posts/threads I'm not here to try and talk you into anything. I'm just here to tell you what I see and make a suggestion. Your call whether or not you see any value in what I've derived from your sharing.

Be good to yourself ~

[MaidenMinx]

I did read the whole post/thread doll! I've read all of your posts/threads I'm not here to try and talk you into anything. I'm just here to tell you what I see and make a suggestion. Your call whether or not you see any value in what I've derived from your sharing.

Be good to yourself ~

It just seems everyone assumes that the day I described is a typical day. It's not. Far ****ing from it. Once upon a time a day like that was typical, and that's why it scares me. Yes I know I have a problem, I actually have many. When it comes to the problem of smoking pot, I don't know what to do. The team (yep, there are 3 of them and none of them are allowed to see me alone) of drug and alcohol counsellors I am seeing can't even get them selves on the same page. One says it is possible for me to be a casual user and learn and implement coping strategies to make sure I don't fall into a daily habit, another says that is not possible and the other just sits their with a dumb grin on her face saying profound things like "you need to be more assertive with your family". I'm sure you can understand how frustrating that would be.
As I said, none of the local facilities are suitable and I'd have to travel at least 3 hours to find a place that is. Not great for outpatient treatment.

It might seem like I am making excuses. Maybe subconsciously I am. Consciously, I am simply stating the facts.

I am tired of all of this. I don't want to be this way. When it comes down to it, I just don't want to be me....

Maybe it's time to go back to anti-depressants (lexapro). I hate being on them but I hate being like this too. The anti-depressants at least numb me a little and make me not so super sensitive.

[rafterman]

What the fvck is it with November. People dont seem to want to take good advice.....Sheesh

[rafterman]

Wow. I'm just going to say here this is the last time I post my personal shit here.

But yet you continue to do so???

[MaidenMinx]

What the fvck is it with November. People dont seem to want to take good advice.....Sheesh

I'm waiting for new advice. No one has suggested anymore hobbies for me.

Rehab and AA might be good advice for some, but not for this household. I will never get hubby to go to AA and when am I going to get the time to go to rehab if I could get to the appropriate facility? I can barely get a night off from my son, how am I supposed to get a week or a month? If you can offer me solutions to those problems, oh and pay for rehab for me since the 3 of us live on $1400 a fortnight I'll be there with bells on.

[MaidenMinx]

But yet you continue to do so???

Last thread, Mr Literal. Since I am serious about not wanting pot to rule my roost I am keeping this thread going in the hopes someone will suggest something I haven't thought of before.

[rafterman]

and when am I going to get the time to go to rehab if I could get to the appropriate facility?.

What do you do for work?.....BTW keep this thread going,I hope to reach an executive outcome....so lets go.

[rafterman]

I'm waiting for new advice. No one has suggested anymore hobbies for me. .

Everytime someone suggests something, you seem to have some kind of excuse why it cant be done. With that sort of defeatist attitude, your failure will be swift.

[KingZ]

Minx is unusually attractive to me when she's bitchy.

[MaidenMinx]

What do you do for work?.....BTW keep this thread going,I hope to reach an executive outcome....so lets go.

I haven't been able to work consistently since my son started school. Now that hubby isn't working nights, I'm looking for work. Had an interview at kingsleys chicken on Saturday, find out Thursday. I am a hospitality bitch and when my son is through school I will go and do my chefs apprenticeship. I can't do that at the moment because I don't have the flexibility to.

[rafterman]

. I am a hospitality bitch and when my son is through school I will go and do my chefs apprenticeship..

Do you work well under pressure?

[MaidenMinx]

Everytime someone suggests something, you seem to have some kind of excuse why it cant be done. With that sort of defeatist attitude, your failure will be swift.

I had a very defensive response started but I am going to go with that is true.

I will admit here and now, I am ****ing scared of change. So many straight people I have met are so bloody boring.

[MaidenMinx]

Do you work well under pressure?

I can, when I know what I am doing and I know what's expected of me.
Been in kitchens before, I absolutely love it.

[MaidenMinx]

Minx is unusually attractive to me when she's bitchy.

This made me giggle. Most guys run when I hit bitchy mode. Apparently I'm scary.