There are many reasons my husband and I are together....sense of humour is just one of them. We don't marry someone because of just one facet of their personality.
Yes, my husband makes me laugh. And he's also got a zillion other things which I love about him. If he was funny but the rest of his personality sucked, I wouldn't bother with him
Well, LR. Your choice in the end to flip the switch. Or not. Keep posting, I think it helps you.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Old people are different: they sometimes lower their standards or adjust their preferences in order to find someone to avoid confronting their mortality.
You can't prove A fast enough to list it as an asset. B is purely subjective. C is, again, something you can't prove fast enough. D is debatable given the way you talk about women here.
You didn't get what I meant though. Let me try to explain again... Say we're doing our laundry at the same time and you're interested in talking to me...you have only a rather short amount of time to make an impression that will inspire me to continue contact after I leave the laundry room. The qualities you list aren't the ones that grab a person fast, they're things you learn about one another as time progresses. Are you seriously going to introduce yourself and then immediately go into the long list of books you've read, your supposedly superior taste, etc.? That isn't how you meet people, that isn't how you make it to the first date, second date, and beyond.
Says the guy who calls himself ugly...what are we supposed to take from this?
What type of girls are you even trying to attract? You can't even keep your own shit straight. You want an in-depth, co-dependent relationship but you want the most important thing to be looks, not personality. Dear God...
How is it lame? Are you seriously going to pass up saying hello to a girl because you saw her in the laundry room? My university has 18,000 students, the laundry room may be the only place you'll ever see some of them. Some I would see in passing at the bus stop, some at the library, some walking to class. You can strike up a conversation with anyone almost anywhere and when you think of how easy it is for people to slip through your fingers, you really shouldn't be so hung up on whether the location is cool enough for you or not.
Whether a girl responds positively or rudely should tell you plenty. You keep saying you need a loving relationship, why would you want to be with someone that cold? I've had guys approach me and I've always been friendly. I either express equal interest or I befriend them. The ones who hung around as friends were mature enough to move on and I appreciate it, they're great guys.
I sure would: If it goes badly I'll be completely misconstrued and some girl will say something like "Are you such a lowlife that you think you can find a girl to have sex with in a laundry room? PERV!" and then she calls the campus police.
Um, no...just no...
I don't even...there are no words...
Lol, was it a cool story?
Yeah, I imagine I don't have the sheer suave it takes to pull off a really random attempt like that.
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This is why I figured the caste system is a good one: I don't think I'm attractive so I should either die single or meet someone I'm not physically attracted to at all but having a physical intimacy-less but good loving relationship with.
Actually, I haven't really hoped to attract anyone in a while: I just go on trying to learn new things and try to accept dying alone.